[Anonymous]

I wondered if anyone had any advice on trying to deal with things whilst in the midst of exams.

My grandmother has had cancer for a while now but is rapidly going downhill (her death is apparently imminent) and I can't deal with it. It's really upsetting me and I find that I can't concentrate on anything at the moment, let alone the ridiculous amount of revision I have to do. My exams start tomorrow and right now I'm just sitting here crying about it all; something which I seem to be doing way too much nowadays. I can't find any other way to deal with this at all - and crying is certainly not 'dealing with' the situation at any rate. I'm worried this is going to affect my exams - I'm not prepared for my exam tomorrow, I don't feel ready but it doesn't seem very important compared to everything else.

I've tried talking to my boyfriend about it and he's being really lovely about it all and supporting me, but I don't want to place too much stress on him because he's doing exams at the moment, and it's an LDR so he can't be here all the time to help (not that I'd expect him to be).

If anyone has any advice as to how I can try and deal with this and get through my exams at the same time, that would be much appreciated.

Thank you in advance.

[flown_muse]

Ah. I'm actually going through the same thing right now except that it's my mum, she's not talking to me anyway and my exams have just finished.

I don't really know what to say, I'm sorry, but I think you should go talk to the school about it? Maybe it can be postponed or something?

[littlemiss-sunshine]

I'd say just try to do your best on the exams and tell your school so they can let the exam board know, then they can take it into account. Good luck!

[billykwok]

you should definitely let the exam board know about your situation, you might get a mark up; but also i am sure your grandmother would want you to do well in your exam rather than crying over her. good luck and take care!

[22KT22]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

I wondered if anyone had any advice on trying to deal with things whilst in the midst of exams.

My grandmother has had cancer for a while now but is rapidly going downhill (her death is apparently imminent) and I can't deal with it. It's really upsetting me and I find that I can't concentrate on anything at the moment, let alone the ridiculous amount of revision I have to do. My exams start tomorrow and right now I'm just sitting here crying about it all; something which I seem to be doing way too much nowadays. I can't find any other way to deal with this at all - and crying is certainly not 'dealing with' the situation at any rate. I'm worried this is going to affect my exams - I'm not prepared for my exam tomorrow, I don't feel ready but it doesn't seem very important compared to everything else.

I've tried talking to my boyfriend about it and he's being really lovely about it all and supporting me, but I don't want to place too much stress on him because he's doing exams at the moment, and it's an LDR so he can't be here all the time to help (not that I'd expect him to be).

If anyone has any advice as to how I can try and deal with this and get through my exams at the same time, that would be much appreciated.

Thank you in advance.

Im really sorry to hear that OP im in a very similar situation... except its my dad who has it and is gettin worse and i can relate to everything you've said. its difficult and the last thing you want to do right now is exams.... just try and keep focused, just think what your grandmother would want. im pretty sure all shed want is for you to try your best.. just show up try your best and speak to your tutor etc about getting special dispension. im sorry i can offer any better advice but i have no idea what to do myself... i feel exactly the same with my bf (although its not a LDR yet), im constantly worried that im a burden to him and bringing him down. just try and keep going and if you ever need to talk feel free to PM me.