[Angelil]

Welcome posies You'll go through phases of things being easier and harder.

And yes anon 25, I think once a month is fine

[WelshBluebird]

I don't know why I'm posting this, I'm not really looking for advice (because I know most of it will just be "don't bother" ), I just want to get it of my chest really.

Through a friend, I've got really close to a girl who has lived 200 miles away from me. We've met a couple of times and kissed. We both really like each other.

However she's just gone to Aberystwyth uni and I'm going to bath. Which means a 5 hour train journey . She doesn't seem too keen on an LDR, but has said she'll give it a thought. Can a new relationship really survive that . I really really like her (more than any other girl I've ever liked), and I want to try all I can to be with her.

(not bothering with anon, as my friends know about the situation anyway).

[Angelil]

Yes, it can - my relationship was LD from the start, and that was across 2 countries (France and England). 3.5 years later we now live together So it can definitely be done!

[:)x]

ahhh my guy just left my house for uni

man it's hard. i could hardly speak to m i was so upset.
i now look chinese from crying so hard.

soooooo i'm going to have a nice girly day with my friends, just staying in, watching some films and having a chat. and i await his excited phonecall about how great it is.

13 days til i can see him

just wish i could stop being upset lol
ahhh

x

[Joanna]

(Original post by WelshBluebird)
I don't know why I'm posting this, I'm not really looking for advice (because I know most of it will just be "don't bother" ), I just want to get it of my chest really.

Through a friend, I've got really close to a girl who has lived 200 miles away from me. We've met a couple of times and kissed. We both really like each other.

However she's just gone to Aberystwyth uni and I'm going to bath. Which means a 5 hour train journey . She doesn't seem too keen on an LDR, but has said she'll give it a thought. Can a new relationship really survive that . I really really like her (more than any other girl I've ever liked), and I want to try all I can to be with her.

(not bothering with anon, as my friends know about the situation anyway).

That is tough... especially with the transport thing. i was gonna say that u can get super cheap flights out of bath but i dunno how close aberystwyth is to an airport...

it sounds like ur instinct is to b with her, despite everything else. so u shud at least try. it doesn't matter how new a relationship is, if you like each other enough itll survive. if it doesn't then maybe its not meant to be. at the very least, try n stay in touch and if ur still close 3 years later then.. who knows? my parents lived in different countries for 6 years and saw other people, and in the end neither of them had found anyone else they loved quite as much, n now theyve been married for 20 years!

[Anonymous]

thankyou angelil, just hard. [sigh]

[Angelil]

Aye, it is, can't deny that.

[Determination.]

i wanna be with hiiiim

[geo87]

Newcomer to this topic, my girlfriend of just over a year has just gone to Sheff Hallam, i'm working full time here in York, she left yesterday and already i'm struggling

Went to Sheff with her yesterday, unpacked with her and spent some time with her till i left her yesterday evening tissues needed..... Went out last night so kept me busy got in this morning at 3am went to go to bed and all i could think about was how much i miss her already...

Same story today been out for a meal with family so kept my mind off it but as soon as i've sat down now i feel really really down again.

Seeing her Thursday so its not all that long at all till i see her but it just feels really really hard, in the past year the most time we have spent apart is a week when she went to New York, and i've seen her every day since last November!

I just don't have any interest in anything, all i am thinking about is my gf

Freshers is also worrying me, were as strong as anything but I'm just so scared some lad goes for her....

grrrrrrrr i dunno if i can cope

i bet this sound so pathetic to everyone especially to those who dont see there bf's/gf's for months at a time and i apologise in advance....

[Fleece]

Hmm.

It's important that you can both manage to have a life without the other when you're apart. If you just spend your days feeling ****** and down about it then what's the point, you may as well not be together at all.

Just be grateful about how close she really is and how often you can still see her.

If you're as strong as you say you are then you've got nothing to worry about if some lad does 'go' for her. I'm sure she's brave enough to turn them down.

[Angelil]

You'll adjust geo It's hard but you will manage to settle down into a sort of 'routine' eventually

[woweee]

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[22KT22]

(Original post by woweee)
my boyfriend left today..he's not coming back until christmas.
i'll only get to see him when i visit him, which wont be that often as it's 6 hours away and i have lectures too
i already can't stand him being away..i don't know how i'm going to cope :/...any advice would be much appreciated..

where has you bf gone? is it uni? isnt there anyway he can come visiti you? it shouldnt be down to you to always make the effort to visit.

[southernlight]

(Original post by 22KT22)

where has you bf gone? is it uni? isnt there anyway he can come visiti you? it shouldnt be down to you to always make the effort to visit.

if poss, it shouldn't just be you travelling to see him. Where is he going?

[Determination.]

should have gone to uni with im

[woweee]

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[woweee]

(Original post by Determination.)
should have gone to uni with im

i'm at university too, a different one.

[southernlight]

(Original post by Determination)
should have gone to uni with im

Isn't always the best thing. Sometimes it's good to go to diff unis and get a different set of friends. Plus if people are posting in here then they're obviously in an LDR and going to different unis isn't something you can change easily

(Original post by woweee)
yeah he's gone to uni. well the thing is i have 4 free days a week, and he's going to have lectures every weekday, so we decided that it would be better for me to go to his (as he wouldn't have to miss lectures) and we'll just pay half each for the train.

i just feel really insecure right now, the last thing i want is for us to drift apart..i'm already worried because he hasn't got in touch yet to say how it is..

If he's just settled in then he's probably busy socialising etc and making friends. Don't worry too much, I'm sure once he gets a chance he'll text you

But I know the feeling, my boyfriend went off to uni last year whilst I was still in my last year of school... he was out having loads of fun in a new place whilst I was stuck where I'd been all my life! I'm off to uni this year though so

[Fleece]

(Original post by Determination.)
should have gone to uni with im

No offence, but that's pretty crappy advice to anyone in here tbh.

[22KT22]

(Original post by woweee)
yeah he's gone to uni. well the thing is i have 4 free days a week, and he's going to have lectures every weekday, so we decided that it would be better for me to go to his (as he wouldn't have to miss lectures) and we'll just pay half each for the train.

i just feel really insecure right now, the last thing i want is for us to drift apart..i'm already worried because he hasn't got in touch yet to say how it is..

What about weekends? could he not come down fri night and leave sunday? i know he has lots of lecturs but couldnt he do the work on the train i know many in the LDR soc who've done this especially when the journeys that long.

i think its great that you're agreeing to split the cost though since having to fund it all the time especially at uni would eat into your budget.

im sure as southernlight said hes just settling in and making new friends and sorting himself out. perhaps send him a quick text just saying you're checking in to see how hes doing. that way it lets him know you're thinking about him without sounding needy/clingy.

have you made arrangements for when you're next seeing him? having a light at the end of the tunnel will give you something to look forward to!