The good news is, my hair is actually growing long, and I noticed this today when I stretched some hairs at the back and they reach down by my armpit!
Just the first goal length I wanted.
The bad news is, the shrinkage is really bothering me. My natural texture length looks similar to this (picture isn't me):
I'm a bit bothered by it because I don't really feel like my afro looks that great on me tbh (not like hers does anyway, hers is pretty). I try to style it to look like a great afro style, but it just looks weird or messy and I end up always putting it into tied back styles like ponytails and buns. I'm always having to constantly stretch it out in braids and twists, and this takes so much effort and time, and even then it doesn't nearly reach my total stretched length. It'd probably be a very long time, if ever, before my shrunken hair ever looks properly long, and I dunno if I can deal with that.
I mean, look at this lady's hair (on the left). Hers is much longer than mine stretched, but the shrinkage is immense
I'm debating whether to relax it again or not, since I quite miss having straight hair and I much prefer the look of long hair on myself. I only went natural just to try it, and I find it OK but there's all the downsides I've listed. I've tried flat ironing a few times but I'm not very good at it and it also takes a lot of time and effort. So relaxed hair would probably be easier overall. Though, I just wouldn't want to regret it, since going from natural to relaxed is much easier and quicker than going from relaxed back to natural (if you want a decent hair length and not a teeny weeny afro).
I'm probably gonna get a weave installed soon just so I can hide my hair and hold off my decision a little longer. I'll see how things go