I love how all but one of the people commenting on my original rape comment are male.
News flash: implied consent is no longer an accepted defence in the UK. The legal definition of rape is unwanted penetrative sex. Thus, because she didn't want it, makes it rape, in the eyes of the law. Furthermore, many rape cases have had the victim shocked into silence and not being able to fight back, so don't use that excuse as a reason for it not being rape. She didn't want to have sex with him, he didn't check, by the sounds of it he just went for it without thinking of her needs or wants. She's admitted she doesn't want it and feels dirty for letting him carry on.
To the OP: talk to the guy and tell him how violated you feel.