Noise during sex? What's normal?
Kind of an uncomfortable subject to talk to with my friends, so perhaps some people here can help me?
I've been casually seeing this guy, and last night we had sex, but it was all really quiet and awkward. We've has sex once before but there was loud music playing so it wasn't so bad, but I don't want to have to play music every time I have sex!
I feel really uncomfortable with making noises, I can orgasm in silence, but then the sex ends up really dull! I don't know what to do!
This is embarassing to admit, but I've been watching porn for ideas, but I'm not sure how realistic that is ... I don't want to start going 'oh yess' etc. only for this guy to wonder what I'm doing.
What's normal?
I've been casually seeing this guy, and last night we had sex, but it was all really quiet and awkward. We've has sex once before but there was loud music playing so it wasn't so bad, but I don't want to have to play music every time I have sex!
I feel really uncomfortable with making noises, I can orgasm in silence, but then the sex ends up really dull! I don't know what to do!
This is embarassing to admit, but I've been watching porn for ideas, but I'm not sure how realistic that is ... I don't want to start going 'oh yess' etc. only for this guy to wonder what I'm doing.
What's normal?
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dh00001
do whatever comes naturally.
dont try and fake anything, thats far worse
dont try and fake anything, thats far worse
I have to disagree. I think that acting and over extenuating everything during sex makes it a lot more fun. Moan, claw into his back, ask him to bite you, scream, make yourself breathless, whatever. These little pieces of 'acting' lead into real passion. You just need to have fun and throw yourself into it. There's nothing worse than quiet sex.
It varies from person to person, some people are really noisy, others are very quiet - there is no 'normal'. Just do what comes naturally.
And certainly don't use porn as an example, it's not in the least bit realistic
And certainly don't use porn as an example, it's not in the least bit realistic
Do what you feel comfortable with.
Orgasm's vary from person to person, and to be honest, if you're constantly thinking "this is really dull" whilst having sex, then you might not be doing it the optimum way, or with the right person.
Orgasm's vary from person to person, and to be honest, if you're constantly thinking "this is really dull" whilst having sex, then you might not be doing it the optimum way, or with the right person.
Charlybob
You're really considering laying there, getting screwed, thinking "Now what was it TSR told me I could yell out right now?"?
lol!I just wanted to know whether it is normal for me to have sex in silence for the rest of my life!
Porn is so unrealistic just go with the flow and do what feels good or what you want to do, there are no right or wrongs about this.
Aesop
I have to disagree. I think that acting and over extenuating everything during sex makes it a lot more fun. Moan, claw into his back, ask him to bite you, scream, make yourself breathless, whatever. These little pieces of 'acting' lead into real passion. You just need to have fun and throw yourself into it. There's nothing worse than quiet sex.
I do agree with this to an extent. I wouldn't say fake it, but i would say completely throw yourself in it and exaggerate a bit. What's the harm?! And if i make a little extra moan, or claw his back just a little bit more, or bite him, or scream a bit, it puts me in more of a passionate mood anyway, leading to loads of orgasms
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Anonymous lol!
I just wanted to know whether it is normal for me to have sex in silence for the rest of my life!
lol!I just wanted to know whether it is normal for me to have sex in silence for the rest of my life!
Don't say that! One day, I'm sure a man willl come along and turn you into a screamer!
Maybe the guy you're doing it with isn't working hard enough! Because I know sometimes I have to bite the pillow so I don't scream out (when others are in the house)
To answer your question though, it comes naturally really I'm the noisy type, you may be the quieter type!
I thought that was the time when you're most closest to a guy, therefore that's when you should ask him how his day etc was. It gets you more involved in each other's lives. keeps the passion going etc.
what! talking like actual conversation during sex is a big no-no (maybe the one off quickie...). the odd sexy remark, the little moan, hand reflex (claw, tightening of your legs a bit), comment if he's doing it right or how you want him to do it-but with passion rather than reading out a list lol. never an awkward moment
I never thought i'd like er, make noise or anything. But I do, a bit! And it's not forced. Sometimes just the physical exertion can make you 'make noise'. Failing that, breathe heavier? It's kind of discouraging for a guy because they look from a response from you to know that it's nice for you (in my experience), so like above posters have said, maybe experiment with a different position or something that is more pleasurable for you rather than laying there musing about how quiet it is.
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