[minimarshmallow]

(Original post by Emmie3303)
Haha, actually I'm not that surprised . It definitely would cost far too much to keep the flat warm/hot; I'd happily settle for lukewarm or not cold .

When I hear about arguments like these I thank my lucky stars I'm in university halls with the heating included in the rent. I have a condition that causes a lot of pain in my hands that gets worse when it's cold, in fact I had to wear gloves once when I was in the computer lab because it was too cold and my hands were getting really painful.
But really, if I was in a house where you had to pay extra for heating (like we have at home), I'd probably be the same as you really - as long as its warm enough that my hands don't seize up and require me to wear gloves in the house and attempt to type with them on, I can wear a jumper to keep the rest of me warm.

[EvanM300]

my housemates are insane..good guys good friends but i don't understand them and their way of living..always drinking, smoking, partying, inviting strangers at home O.o 1 month ago it was sunday morning i woke up, 3 unknown asiatic guys were sleeping on the floor in the living room, 1 of them without trouser
i believe it has been the weirdest moment in my life..

[Emmie3303]

(Original post by minimarshmallow)
When I hear about arguments like these I thank my lucky stars I'm in university halls with the heating included in the rent. I have a condition that causes a lot of pain in my hands that gets worse when it's cold, in fact I had to wear gloves once when I was in the computer lab because it was too cold and my hands were getting really painful.
But really, if I was in a house where you had to pay extra for heating (like we have at home), I'd probably be the same as you really - as long as its warm enough that my hands don't seize up and require me to wear gloves in the house and attempt to type with them on, I can wear a jumper to keep the rest of me warm.

Having the heating included in the rent would certainly solve our problem; you're lucky to have that ! I think the problem is that there is no compromise. My flatmate likes to be cold therefore we must all be cold. My other flatmate likes to be really hot and she's compromised fully and not put the heating on whereas the other flatmate hasn't budged one bit on their stance. We need more people like you who have a very reasonable attitude to the heating!

[memomemootoo]

i'm sitting in my room and eating dry coffee because my flatmates are occupying the kitchen.

[affinity89]

(Original post by memomemootoo)
i'm sitting in my room and eating dry coffee because my flatmates are occupying the kitchen.

I know how you feel!

The kitchen has been invaded again. There are 9 of them this time. Cooker top, worktops, table and all the chairs occupied.

Makes me glad I had my lunch/dinner at 3pm lol.

[SirMasterKey]

Too scared to go downstairs. My house mate mum is here and we've had a rather ridicilous argument in the past on facebook on a picture I posted tagging her son about how I always bully him.


I want food as well.

[Soph(:]

(Original post by SirMasterKey)
Too scared to go downstairs. My house mate mum is here and we've had a rather ridicilous argument in the past on facebook on a picture I posted tagging her son about how I always bully him.


I want food as well.

LOL, he got his mum involved in a facebook argument wow :|

[SirMasterKey]

(Original post by Soph(:)
LOL, he got his mum involved in a facebook argument wow :|

Actually he was really embarrassed by it as she just went in there and defended him. He knew it was a joke but she didn't.

[rainbow.panda]

I'm off to uni this year, I hope to god I don't get horrible housemates! I'm so worried about making friends as it is

[P.Kaur]

(Original post by memomemootoo)
i'm sitting in my room and eating dry coffee because my flatmates are occupying the kitchen.

Okay, I thought I was the only one who chose to avoid the kitchen when they congregate inside. Having to find scraps of food in your room to keep you alive... it's a hard, hard life..

[LoveyRae]

This thread is amazing. Seriously. Wish I'd found it at the start of the year rather than now. Only a week left with my block - YES

[jim100]

(Original post by LoveyRae)
This thread is amazing. Seriously. Wish I'd found it at the start of the year rather than now. Only a week left with my block - YES

Living with my bully of a house mate left me devastated - always better to leave than stick with a uncompromising and unreasonable bully.

[Jim_Reid]

sick of getting people hating on me for something I wrote while I was sick...I just want to forget this whole crappy time I spent in that flat and look towards the future hoping to sort my head out.

seriously though, open a book, it will do you more good than harm.

[blinkbelle]

(Original post by Jim_Reid)
heres some advice for anyone going to university and stopping in halls:

1. if anyone plays music after 12 midnight you have to come down on it like a ton of bricks every time (bang on their doors, call security, whatever) otherwise they think you're a pushover and it will go on all year. I have learned this the hard way.

2. at the very least, try to keep a basic level of contact with the people you're forced to share the flat with.

I myself have not seen 4 of 5 of my housemates since christmas, and yes they did come back, but we all have different timetables and I could not even make basic conversation with them so it became awkward to be in the kitchen with them so I just stopped around january. I still use the kitchen every day but it's when I know they're out, this is bad, really bad, sometimes I starve in my room because now it's just too awkward to go in the kitchen knowing they are there.

pretty much now living off food that does not require cooking and the odd microwave meal. it's slowly killing me and not helping me gain weight at all...

3. don't be yourself. your favorite band isn't the smiths, it's now 1 direction.

a nice night to you isn't going down the pub for a few quiet pints, its going out and getting as drunk as possible as cheaply as possible and paying silly money to get into some cheesy ass night club called "heaven" or similar.

your favorite author is now George Orwell because it's the only author your new flatmates have heard of.

you don't follow current affairs, the news to you now consists of finding out what Joe Swash gets up to on his days off or how fabulous Kate Middleton is.

don't like it? tough luck!, suck it up because this is your new identity and this is the only way your going to be accepted by your peers in student halls. im just giving it to you straight.

this is bull****. Bitter much?

[jumpingjesusholycow]

(Original post by amyshamblesxx)
Ooh good idea. Although I don't know how much longer I can go before I crack and just clean the entire bathroom. Sometimes I wonder whether I'm too anal or if my housemates are just pigs. I dream of the day I move into a house where I have my own en-suite

Believe me, you're not being too anal. These people just haven't been trained to live without their parents, and so their experience thus far just been that things just clean themselves.


It's a matter of time, although don't hold your breath. Sooner or later, most likely after uni, when all the hubbub of living a 'caraaayzee student life' has subsided, they'll get their act together.

[Origami Bullets]

(Original post by Jim_Reid)
heres some advice for anyone going to university and stopping in halls:

1. if anyone plays music after 12 midnight you have to come down on it like a ton of bricks every time (bang on their doors, call security, whatever) otherwise they think you're a pushover and it will go on all year. I have learned this the hard way.

2. at the very least, try to keep a basic level of contact with the people you're forced to share the flat with.

I myself have not seen 4 of 5 of my housemates since christmas, and yes they did come back, but we all have different timetables and I could not even make basic conversation with them so it became awkward to be in the kitchen with them so I just stopped around january. I still use the kitchen every day but it's when I know they're out, this is bad, really bad, sometimes I starve in my room because now it's just too awkward to go in the kitchen knowing they are there.

pretty much now living off food that does not require cooking and the odd microwave meal. it's slowly killing me and not helping me gain weight at all...

3. don't be yourself. your favorite band isn't the smiths, it's now 1 direction.

a nice night to you isn't going down the pub for a few quiet pints, its going out and getting as drunk as possible as cheaply as possible and paying silly money to get into some cheesy ass night club called "heaven" or similar.

your favorite author is now George Orwell because it's the only author your new flatmates have heard of.

you don't follow current affairs, the news to you now consists of finding out what Joe Swash gets up to on his days off or how fabulous Kate Middleton is.

don't like it? tough luck!, suck it up because this is your new identity and this is the only way your going to be accepted by your peers in student halls. im just giving it to you straight.

Have you not considered that the bolded bit is the source of your problems, not differing literary / music tastes? I have (very) different literary / music tastes to my flatmates and we all get along fine, even if we're not best friends.

[Jim_Reid]

(Original post by blinkbelle)
this is bull****. Bitter much?

I don't really care, I think that stuff is bull****, im not gonna dumb myself down to fit in with people, what, I guess i was too close to the bone?

there is no room for quiet types, and im not being bitter, im giving advice to anyone prospectively staying in halls your going to have a hard time unless you change yourself fairly drastically to fit in.

all the stuff I mentioned above, however bitter it seems, is 100% my experience, while ill grant I have confidence issues, im totally not 100% of the problem, maybe im 90% of the problem, but the fact they themselves never look further than heat magazine has something to do with why I don't like people

[Jim_Reid]

and try to look at it with the shoe on the other foot.

they like whatever they like, I don't care what it is, I just don't like it.

I'd like to see how they'd get on if virtually everyone was similar to myself and not them (basically reverse situation), not only in music or literary taste, in a broader sense of what if we don't care about the celebrity culture, what if we like talking about computer programming or whatever...they'd probably blow their brains out in a few days, couldn't cope with not being accepted or feeling irrelevant

im pretty sure they'd be left cold by that and rightly so, it's only the same for me except for some reason im not allowed to actively dislike 1 direction who have no artistic merit and were made to milk money from gullible teenage girls.

the only thing that is my fault is I can't hold a conversation with people, because im too shy and because any kind of day to day topic is just going to dry up in like 2 minutes, and then im left with all this celeb crap to have to try to talk about...

[BKS]

(Original post by Jim_Reid)
there is no room for quiet types, and im not being bitter, im giving advice to anyone prospectively staying in halls your going to have a hard time unless you change yourself fairly drastically to fit in.

You don't need to 'dumb down' to be polite to people in the passing. Starving in your room because you don't want to be in the same room as them is somewhere between absurd and serious social skills issue.

I don't talk to one of my flat mates anymore really because he does my head in. I still go in the kitchen at the same time as him, say 'hi', perhaps a 'how's it going?'. It's not hard. We will often not talk much after that beyond the odd 'can you pass me a fork?'. Slightly awkward yeah but I'll not starve over it.

You don't need to like your flatmates, you don't need to have things in common, you don't have to have much conversation with them. Actually most of the time that won't be the case. You just be civil to them and expect the same back and then flatshares work fine. You are right that you are mostly your own problem

[Jim_Reid]

have exams for 1 more week and then I can move out but that does not solve the problem.

clearly the problem is me and there is no solution because it's just how I am, and i've tried to practice to make better small talk, but it's so hard, I can't change who I am.

however I come across when talking about them, they have all been (except 1) polite & patient with me...but there is no connection and I can't get along because I can't talk to people. so now im starving in my room and I suppose people would say it's a fair punishment.

I need to get off this forum anyway I always come on here it's like a greif bucket, its not going to solve anything