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Hi guys and girls wondering if you could help me out with a big problem I have. I'm 18 years old, at Uni and can't (won't??) get a girlfriend. I've not had any serious relationships really outside of a few flings here and there.
As far as looks go, I've been told a few times that I'm fairly good looking (and I've never been told I'm ugly...) but that could be an issue I suppose.
I'm not a bad person, I'm not weird, abnormal or anything like that but this is one thing I just cannot crack and I am really in need of some tips. Can anyone help me out? All comments appreciated.
Oh, one more thing (sorry to ramble) - before anyone suggests just going out and "asking every girl there out until you get a yes" pleasssssse could you define what you mean by "ask out" - would you literally ask her "will you go out with me?" (seems a little unnatural) or something else...?
Just wait until you find the right person. If you go out with the intention of getting a girlfriend then you'll never find one. And in terms of asking a girl out, just invite her out for a drink or something casual like that.
Oh, one more thing (sorry to ramble) - before anyone suggests just going out and "asking every girl there out until you get a yes" pleasssssse could you define what you mean by "ask out" - would you literally ask her "will you go out with me?" (seems a little unnatural) or something else...?
Cheers for reading folks.
Hmm I guess on this one you just have to say what you think fits at the time. Maybe not "will you go out with me?" but instead ask them if they want to meet up with you for a few drinks or something, cinema, whatever you fancy. And when the time is right in that respect, it'd probably feel more natural to ask that question, instead of completely out of the blue if that makes sense.
With me and my boyfriend, we tended to meet up for a couple of times a week, then on the Friday night, we went to the cinema, afterwards when I was waiting to be picked up, we kissed and never even needed to have that question asked- it just happened. Sorry if none of that made sense but good luck with it
I think piglet's advice was very good, but there's another way of doing it: yes, ask out every girl you come across! Think American, think 'dating'! Not like school where you said "will you go out with me?" and then that was it - you were at hand-holding stage and if facebook had been invented then, you would have gone home and changed your relationship status; but more like you meet a girl you think's nice and you ask if she fancies going and getting a coffee, or if she's going to the union tonight, or if she fancies seeing Film Soc's next screening, or if she likes xyz band because you do and none of your friends want to go and see them in town next week... The very process of getting out and about more will: i) lead to you meeting more people; ii) make you more comfortable in going out with girls - it becomes its own self-fulfilling prophecy. If you have to give a presentation for a seminar or something, ask your colleague if she'd fancy a celebratory drink once it's over, same if you're all really relieved to have finished an essay. I have asked and been asked out loads of times this 'subtle' way. More often than not, it leads to nothing, but that's part of the fun?
Goddd I really don't want to go and finish my essay. Can you tell? Haha I've already decided who I'm going to ask if he fancies a celebratory coffee after the seminar where we hand them in
I was/am exactly the same. However, about 2 weeks ago i met this girl who is the only girl in my life that i have actually clicked with. It'll just happen when the girl is right. This girl is like me, same age and has never had a boyfriend. The right girl is out out there, you just have to look i guess as they don't have a big sign on them saying 'WE MATCH!'
All i can suggest is that if you fancy a girl, give a little eye contact and try to be smart and funny when you talk to her. And listen to her - obviously.
The only way it won't happen is if you never socialise.
do you want a girlfriend? i don't think, correct me if i'm wrong, you mentioned actually wanting one?
i'm 20, only had one boyfriend and not that bothered to be honest, i'm fine being single! in fact i would have rather not had a boyfriend than had the one i had....another story though..
I'm having the same issue at the minute, not a lot to do about it really though just waiting for someone to come along. Although the right person has come along but has the added snag of having a boyfriend....Ah the joys of it all .
step one: get to know some girls
step two: spend time with these girls on a casual but one to one basis.
step three: if you find one you like get drunk and kiss her
step four:if she rejects you blame the drink.
if she's into it claim the drink just gave you the confidence to do something you've been yearning for and see where it goes from there.
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