Guys and Girls future

Not just choosing family over a career but wants nothing more than to get married and have kids etc and that would be their greatest achievment in life?

Feminists would eat you alive...

I can't think of anything more soul-destroying than being stuck in the house day in, and day out, washing everybody's clothes, cleaning up everybody's mess, cooking everybody's meals and doing everybody's shopping. To me that's tantamount to being a servant.

Have you ever been stuck in the house for days on end due to illness/ boredom? It's torture - that's what it must feel like being in prison. I've seen the life my sister has being a new mum and housewife, and of course I love her to bits, but I think women get a bum deal as it is with pregnancy/ birthing/ hormones/ sexism/ objectification/ pressure to be thin/ periods.. Never mind being the family skivvy.

I know loads of you will disagree but there's no way i'm going to let my life slip down that route. Not for anybody.

Its different being stuck in the house through illness to being a 'housewife' surely, just because you don't have paid work doesn't mean you don't have to work, get out the house, have a social life.

But maybe my idea of a housewife is too formed from ideals. And a social situation long past

I'll be perfectly honest, I would like my wife raising the kids. This is simply because I believe for children to be fully adjusted they have to have the full, and unconditional attention of the Mother. Not spoiling mind, just making sure they are molded into something successful.

From my perspective at least, all of my friends and siblings who've become parents have had their social lives well and truly slung out of the window. Get out of the house you say.. For what? Food shopping? Post Office? Please. Being a full-time servant to husband and kids doesn't leave time for a life of your own.. So my mum says..

Lol no I meant like...going round to their friends for tea and um charity work and dinners and...well a social life. Yup I did say I imagine it from a past era.
Also...servant is only synonomous with housewife if you can't afford to pay other people to do the boring stuff anyway

I hate to be pedantic, please don't take this the wrong way, but your suggesting that you can only avoid being a servant when taking the role of "housewife" by paying other people to do the housework for you simply reinforces my point. Who the hell has a butler? Are you planning on having one? Also, if husband is out earning the money you depend on (a concept which makes my eyes bleed), who is feeding/changing/ looking after the babies? Whos is washing/ ironing/ cleaning/ cooking/ shopping for the family whilst you are out doing charity work and going to your dinners?

Please don't take this the wrong way, as I said. I just think you have your rose-tinted blinkers on. I'm still trying to catch my breath at the fact that some women actually aspire to this.

Whoever said that being committed to a situation totally reliant on a man's income shifts the power-balance within the relationship is absolutely right. I could never be satisfied in the knowledge that I would be totally screwed (financially and otherwise), should he decide to leave me literally holding the baby. Don't tell me this never happens- in fact, I'd be brash enough to say I think it's commonplace.