Is oral sex a big deal?

It's all a question of context - these things sometimes happen in a one-night stand and on one very nasty occasion I was basically pressured into it, as a get-out so I didn't have to have full sex with the guy. Personally I don't see it as that much of an intimate act, though obviously it is fairly high up on the list, I wouldn't classify it with sex.

i think i would rather have sex with someone than give them a blow job

I think everything to do with sex is overhyper and overrated

You're just not doing it with the right person And no, that wasn't an invitation, before anyone decides to be clever

It's all a question of context - these things sometimes happen in a one-night stand and on one very nasty occasion I was basically pressured into it, as a get-out so I didn't have to have full sex with the guy. Personally I don't see it as that much of an intimate act, though obviously it is fairly high up on the list, I wouldn't classify it with sex.

on one very nasty occasion I was basically pressured into it, as a get-out so I didn't have to have full sex with the guy.

That's ****ing terrible. If some guy ever manages to pressure you, the best thing you can do if you want respect and be able to leave with your head up high is to go tell him to piss off. Seriously, girls who let themselves get pressured into things like this have no respect for themselves. Sure the guy is happy to receive (hell, I'd be really happy too) but the next day, you'll just be some easy impressionable girl he managed to convince,

See it pisses me off when girls say this kind of thing. More specifically when the girl you are seeing admits she did it 'cos i was pressured into it' So thats like what, semi-rape?
I don't wanna screw you is all that is needed. if someone won't take no for an answer, then that would be rape. kick them and leave.
I don't think you have any idea how hearing the above makes most guys feel. Especially if it relates to a current or an ex g/f.

, then that would be rape. kick them and leave.

you obviously have no idea what its like to be raped either

hey I understand you might have issues with this stuff but Helenia seemed to make it clear that it wasn't rape, but just a guy pressuring her. When you're too worried to tell the guy NO because he'll get angry... not because he'll start punching your face in. Hell, I've been in situations where the girl has got very angry because I said no. It's not pretty but I'm not a man-wh0re (at least I like to think I'm not)

its hardly as trivial as issues, yes i think its sad when a lady cant excercise her right to say no but when you say no and it still happens thats notsomething to be made into a joke and "kicking him in the nuts" isnt an option

Its up to you to decide how much respect for yourself you have. Are you ready to lower yourself just to avoid confrontation?
a) You shouldn't be in such a situation with such a ******. Do something about your terrible taste in men. Maybe develop some judgment
b) As long as there's no violence, then do what YOU want.
c) If there's no violence, you shouldn't be scared of some guy getting very frustrated, pissed off and ending up calling you a wh0re/slut (when he says that, he means that he's very disappointed that you're not one).

So many people try to justify such acts as if they're out of their control. Lack of courage is not an excuse. It's up to you to decide if you want to get respect. If you can get out of the situation without a black eye then do so. If a girlfriend told me "but I had to. He really was insisting. He seemed angry (of course he seems angry, he's ****ing sexually frustrated and wants a wh0re like you to lower herself. If you don't show him you're a wh0re, he'll get upset) then that's finished with that girl. Any girl who just needs a lot of clever convincing and a bit of angry talk to give a blowjob is not worth it.

why?????