Is it easy to make friends in university?

People say they meet they're best friends at university. Im quite a shy person, well im friendly when im talking one on one with someone, just im not very good talking in group situations. Do you think i will be okay making friends? im sort of worried everyone is going to be loud and bubbly and not want to talk to me. I do have the confidents to speak to people one on one, im fine in that situation just not in groups if i dont know the people. :confused:

whats your experience with making friends in uni?

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Reply 1

M_E_X

Nataliex182

whats your experience with making friends in uni?

It's VERY easy! Everyone is in the same boat, just get out there and get chatting! :smile:

Reply 2

Nick_000

If you don't have the confidence to speak in groups then you may struggle.

Like always when making friends you have to be prepared to make an effort and put yourself out there.

piece of piss

It's dependant on the people you're talking to. If you're stuck in a room full of people you don't like, it's not going to be easy, but the other way round, you'll be just fine

I've been stuck with a load of people I don't like but have got on well with the people I am friends with

Reply 5

apassingfeeling

I bloody hope so, because I'm exactly the same :smile:

There are going to be hundreds (if not thousands) of people in the same boat as you (and me!) ...dont worry about it :smile:

Reply 6

Nataliex182

Nick_000

If you don't have the confidence to speak in groups then you may struggle.

Like always when making friends you have to be prepared to make an effort and put yourself out there.

its not that im not prepared to make the effort, its just i dont feel comfortable in group situation where everyone is confident and loud, i just feel its hard to get involved, but one on one im fine

Reply 7

electriic_ink

No, no one makes friends at university. That's why it's called university because everyone's all alone.

Reply 8

Nataliex182

apassingfeeling

I bloody hope so, because I'm exactly the same :smile:

There are going to be hundreds (if not thousands) of people in the same boat as you (and me!) ...dont worry about it :smile:

thanks you :smile:

i feel so much better already, good luck with uni!

Reply 9

Glutamic Acid

Nataliex182

whats your experience with making friends in uni?

When the solution is: get to know them. :smile:

Talking in groups is more beneficial in striking up friendships, but it's just about "biting the bullet" and convincing yourself that some initial awkwardness is negligible in comparison to a good friendship. If you're good at one-to-one conversation, you shouldn't have difficulty sustaining them. (I'll take my advice someday.)

Reply 10

DMed

Met some of my mates in the first couple of days and then the rest came fairly soon into the first year.

It's true about the best mates coming from Uni, as Ive said before, they become like a large family (however corny that sounds). Everyone living together helps matters. Your best mates are off your course as you soon get sick of the sight of your flatmates.

Not everyones bubbly, but everyone is in the same boat, you've all left your hometowns for hopefully bigger and better things, you'll soon meet people, and contary to popular belief, you dont have to join a society to meet mates.

Reply 11

Nick_000

Nataliex182

its not that im not prepared to make the effort, its just i dont feel comfortable in group situation where everyone is confident and loud, i just feel its hard to get involved, but one on one im fine

In my welcome week, we had ice breakers which all consisted of talking in a group. You may have to overcome this fear.

Reply 12

gemgem1990

apassingfeeling

I bloody hope so, because I'm exactly the same :smile:

There are going to be hundreds (if not thousands) of people in the same boat as you (and me!) ...dont worry about it :smile:

I'm the sammeeee aswell :smile:

Reply 13

m:)ckel

Nataliex182

its not that im not prepared to make the effort, its just i dont feel comfortable in group situation where everyone is confident and loud, i just feel its hard to get involved, but one on one im fine

Don't worry, I'm like that and I found it easy.

There are lots of different 'groups' of people you can become friends with, e.g. people on your course, in halls (or flatmates), clubs and societies (probably the easiest way) etc.

Reply 14

Lust of a Gardener

jackwhiteisgod

piece of piss

Are you quoting johnny rotten? or are you simply stating that making friends is a piece of piss?...either way, I like its relevance :yep:

Reply 15

apassingfeeling

Nataliex182

thanks you :smile:

i feel so much better already, good luck with uni!

You too! To be honest I'm really scared, I've never been good in social situations. But then I just think... there's got to be someone there that i'll strike up a connection with :smile: