I've recently started a relationship with a really nice guy. He's sweet, nice and I like him. However, from day one I assumed he would have slept with at least a couple of girls because he's good looking, has a hot body and has had a couple of long term relationships.
Anyway, I brought it up today saying jokingly 'ha you're not a virgin are you?" and he admitted to being an 18 year old virgin.
This in itself wouldn't be such a big thing, but I've slept with 5 guys already, and I'm in the year below him, and I'm worried he'll find that offputting
Also, because I'm quite experienced, I'm also used to experienced guys and I'm worried it won't be a great experience
I really don't want to sound shallow but I've had sex with a virgin before and it was awful, I feel bad for taking his V plates, and I don't want to feel guilty if I do it again.
just make sure you're both ready for sex in the relationship, and don't feel guilty I'm sure he'll be happy losing it with you, just make sure he's at ease and make sure he know's it's not a big deal (like him being a virgin and you not being), you never know it might be great
If you like him, why are you being so shallow just because he is a virgin? Everyone was at some point, even you were - there's a first time for everything, you just had yours obviously at an earlier stage than he did.
oh yea, your a proffessional..slept with a whole 5 guys. It is sickenly easy for any girl to get sex in this day and age, regardless of what she looks like. It remains alot harder for guys as girls are always expecting them to make the first move. The reason why your good looking boyfriend hasnt had lots of sex is that he hasnt made the first move.
Also remember, you were a virgin once, so erm be considerate.
I don't know why everybody is being so aggressive in their replies!
If my post came across as just being concerned about my pleasure then I'm sorry, because what I was trying to get across was being worried about him being overwhelmed. I'm not undermining him for being a virgin, I'm just thinking about how not to make it a scary/bad experience, because the first time is quite scary.
Yeahh it's pretty much obvious from what everyone here has said.. If you're in a relationship, you must care about his feelings so even if the experience isn't great, make him feel good about himself.. Sex is a lottttt about confidence.. More confidence to try stuff, he will become a lot more experienced.. Be patient and it will pay off.