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Reply 1
What disabled guy thread?

There was a similar thread to this quite recently and there's also one in the disabled students subforum (about people with mobility problems). The answers were generally fairly open minded and positive.

But for many I would imagine it does depend on the disability and considersing the term "disability" is very broad and open to interpretation (any chronic condition that has an effect on your ability to carry out day to day tasks). I would imagine few would think twice about dating someone who has diabetes, epilepsy o many of these chronic medical conditions which are often, certainly not always, well controlled. Mild learning disablities or developmental disorders (dyslexia, dyspraxia) also. The picture will become more complex is the "potential date" had something like Asperger's. Although people with Asperger's are high functioning and are of at least normal intelligence (often above normal) I can appreciate that if the person was severly affected this would put many off. Even if it's just because of the myth that someone with Asperger's, or anyone on the Autistic spectrum, is not capable of feeling love and reciprocating feelings as this really is nonsense. Similarly if the other person had a severe mental illness. Then there's severe visual impairments and mobility problems.

So yes, for many it will depend on the disability. I appreciate that someone, particularly someone who's quite young, doesn't really want to start a relationship with. Although I would look more at the person and individual and also what kind of relationship with that person before. I'm not saying this because I think it's the PC thing to do, I genuinely do feel that way. As someone who, using an open interpretation of disability, may be said to have a couple of disabilities I hope I'd be less prejudiced than many others. But even I may have my doubts and reservations at times.
Reply 2
I second what River has already said :smile:
Reply 3
Annie72
I second what River has already said :smile:


I third it :smile:
Reply 4
Anonymous
Spurred by the disabled guy thread...

Would you honestly date a disabled person?

Me? depends on the disability. :s-smilie:


not seen the disabled guy thread, but for me it would not be about the 'disability', it would be about the person.

i dont think i'd have any particular problem with it.
no
Reply 6
Depends on the disability and how fit they were. But say if its just like a wheelchair.... why not tbh
Reply 7
BJP
I third it :smile:


I fourth it.
lilyfern
I fourth it.


I fifth it.
Reply 9
i wouldn't go out of my way to date someone who was disabled (heck i'm yet to really have a proper date), having said that though, if the girl i fell for happened to be disabled, then she happens to be disabled. it doesn't matter, disability is not an issue when it comes to being with a potential spouse, regardless of what the disability is.
Annie72
I second what River has already said :smile:

Why the Anon?
Reply 11
Perfect_Gent
Why the Anon?


I"m not the OP. I was just agreeing with River :smile: . Disability covers a myriad of conditions, some hidden, some not.
I was agreeing with you and wondering why the OP was anon. My partner is disabled, it doesn't stop me finding her gorgeous.
No I wouldnt, purely because I doubt my own ability to be able to deal with it, and i say this as a guy with a mentally disabled sister.
No, unless it was like autism or something like that
Reply 15
Perfect_Gent
I was agreeing with you and wondering why the OP was anon. My partner is disabled, it doesn't stop me finding her gorgeous.


Oops sorry :p: . I guess the OP may have been putting out feelers as to other peoples thoughts. Perhaps they have been recently diagnosed themselves and just wondered if them being disabled would put people off going out with them.
Well, I'd want to make sure I would actually be able to cope, help and deal with their disability before anything was made official, but yes, I would. Without sounding prejudice though, I wouldn't date somebody who is in a wheelchair. The only reason for this though, is that the things my girlfriend and I enjoy so much are the physical activities. We'd still be able to have fun together, but it wouldn't be the same, for either of us. I wouldn't be having as much fun, and my date would probably pick up on this and have less fun herself. Having said that though, I wouldn't dump my girlfriend if she became disabled...

I suppose for other couples who prefer lots of quiet nights in, going for walks and feeding the ducks etc, it would probably be more likely. I just wouldn't see either of us getting the best of experiences out of it.
Reply 17
To some of you: Thank you for referring to disabled people as if they are not normal human beings, with normal feelings and personalities like anybody else - I'm sure anybody disabled who's reading this will be very appreciative.
I have asperger's and I never told anyone, I was socially inept till I took a scientific approach to socialising, now I have loads of friends and have had a fair amount of girls. Though the idea of anyone ever finding out freaks me out. I actually had to teach myself what all sorts of different facial expressions and body language poses meant. But in the long run it has made me very aware of how people are going to react.
would i be cruel if i said yes
i dont think i could do it
even with my own children i dont think id ever be able to accept the disability
and would probably have to give my children up

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