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    (Anon, or delete please)

    Hi,

    I've been bulimic for few months and I really want to stop, so I need a push in the right direction, which is recovering from this disorder.

    The first time I made my self sick, I really said to myself it is a 'one off' thing, but things just escalated from there, and I do it daily... I have lost about 5 kg since, and people keep mentioning "You're so skinny" and complimenting, but I don't feel good when they say it (because I know what I'm doing is wrong...)

    Telling my family is a huuge nono... I want to tell my friends, but Im really scared of what they'll think of me; stupid, attention seeking etc... Although I wouldn't need lot of support from them, it would be nice to know there's someone to talk to if I need it...

    So I just wanted you to share your experiences (if you can/want), so I can get some courage to do something about this...
    -did you tell your family/friends
    -how did your friends react
    etc.

    I thought I can do this alone, but it's obvious to me I cannot...

    P.S. Instead of me P.M. ing you guys (the ones that want to help), can you just go anon and post it here... I realli don't want people knowing who I am...

    Thank you so much.
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    Hiya,

    Ok, a push in the right direction... I have two friends who suffer from bulimia through making themselves sick (I have dabbled in it) and both of them are having serious ,serious dental problems. Like rotting teeth and having to have them removed. You say you don't want to tell anyone, which may be something you have to think about at some point, but if you can't right now I completely accept that... but if you continue down this path they will end up finding out, if only from the dentist when you freak out.

    The other thing, I don't know if you've experienced this now. But stomach pains much? If you could start eating healthily, depending on how long and how much you've done this, they could get better - even stop. How nice would it be to be able to eat or drink something without your stomach shouting at you?

    Also gag reflex will go if you continue. So you might throw up when laughing, or if you just feel a little sick, or if you eat a little too much. And that's really inconvenient in the middle of a class.

    If you are over the age of 16 you could go to your GP and ask to be referred to the eating disorder team without them having to tell your parents (providing you are not seriously endangering yourself) and even under the age of 16, if you can present yourself responsibly they may not have to break confidentiality and tell your parents. I saw an eating disorders specialist and they are really lovely. I know lots of people who have been helped by them.

    When my friends told me they were bulimic (they dont' know each other these were several separate friends, it's not like we're in a group together or anything) each time I wasn't angry, didn't think they were stupid or attention seeking. If you have good friends they will most likely already know something is happening, want to help and in time be proud of you for telling them and for your recovery.

    When my eating went really downhill to be honest, it wasn't my Mum or the doctors who got me better - it was my best friend who continuously took me out to eat and stayed with me, encouraged me not to do anything and just stuck by me. So I'm not saying you have to go and see a doctor, but if you could tell a friend who you trust it might help. Also you could maybe try it out first by saying 'my friend who is bulimic...' and ask them what they'd suggest you tell your friend. That might give you an idea of their general views of Eating disorders.

    Hope things improve.
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    (Original post by Flying Hippo)


    The other thing, I don't know if you've experienced this now. But stomach pains much? If you could start eating healthily, depending on how long and how much you've done this, they could get better - even stop. How nice would it be to be able to eat or drink something without your stomach shouting at you?
    Yeah, I do have stomach pains occasionally... Are you saying the stomach pain will become permanent??
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    No... the stomach pains won't become permanent, but they will worsen if you continue.

    Not to mention your teeth with corrode and your hair will fall out.

    Tell your friends. If they don't stick by you then they're obviously not worth being friends with.
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    (Original post by BillyPilgrim)
    Instead of putting you fingers down your throat, put a knob down it.
    At least you will be providing a service so your bulimia isn't as bad.
    Is that the best you can do?
    Anyway, somehow I don't think you have had bulimia...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is that the best you can do?
    Anyway, somehow I don't think you have had bulimia...
    I did have and that's how I sorted it, I realized I was making people happy, this boosted my self esteem and made me not bother about being overweight anymore.
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    As someone who has suffered from eating disorders for years I definately advise and encourage seeking outside help as soon as possible. Your gp is the first step, scary as it may seem. Don't suffer this on your own anymore and try to get control of it as soon as you can, there's a much better quality of life out there waiting without this

    As for how my parents reacted, well I was hit and kicked out at 17 because my mum couldn't take it. This is partly my own fault for not accepting help much and my mum's character, but there's so many wondeful people who want to be there for you. It might be a 'relief' of some sorts for friends/family to learn what's wrong with you and offer you the support you need.

    All the best!
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    Ps have you read up on possible consequences of bulimia? It gave me an incentive to get help. Go on the Beat website
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    Hiya, this topic is something that i feel very passionate about due to my own personal experiences. From the age of about 13-15 i struggled with bullimia but for the last year or so ive been in control and vomitting is now an extremely rare and minor part of my life. I still have eating issues i diet then binge, and vice-versa and sometimes just eat way too much but i don't do the destructive things i used too. I won't pretend that eating will ever be the same again because it won't but it can get so much better than it is for you now. I wish you all the best. Telling my family and friends was the best thing i ever did because i could'nt pretend to myself anymore that was i was doing was okay. I wish you all the luck in the world. You CAN conquor this demon. All the best xxx
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ps have you read up on possible consequences of bulimia? It gave me an incentive to get help. Go on the Beat website
    Yes, I actually have their number in my mobile... I am planning on calling them in future....
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    As for how my parents reacted, well I was hit and kicked out at 17 because my mum couldn't take it. This is partly my own fault for not accepting help much and my mum's character, but there's so many wondeful people who want to be there for you. It might be a 'relief' of some sorts for friends/family to learn what's wrong with you and offer you the support you need.

    All the best!
    Thank you.

    Do you regret telling your parents? See, this is the kind of reaction I'm scared of getting.... that they'll think I'm some sort of a freak...

    I remember few years back when I mentioned to my friends that one close friend of mine had anorexia and their reaction wasn't good.
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    hii.. i was bulimic for two years, from late year ten to late year twelve... this was binge purge everyday, i still do it sometimes when i feel out of control or stressed etc... i don't think i will ever really consider myself 'recovered'
    i didn't tell my family, and to this day i don't think they know. they got super suspicious at one point about my laxative use (i would use these as well as vomiting) but nothing ever really came of their suspicions. i did tell a few friends, they were really really good... i think people do generally react better than you think.
    what pushed me into help.. i was a bit of a difficult case because at first i didn't want help. my year 12 tutor caught me making myself sick in the college bathroom one day, told my year head and things just spiraled from there. i took some counselling sessions with the college (i dont know if you're at school, college, or uni but have you thought about that? i found it a lot less intense than full on ED counselling..) & i eventually got up the courage to decide for myself that i needed to go to the doctor. things have gotten better since, but don't give up if things don't get magically perfect again. food for me, will never seem the same. i will never enjoy it in the same way most people do. but i'm so much healthier for it, my skin is better, my hair is better, my teeth are so much better, i don't get exhausted just from going up the stairs anymore... my whole life is better. don't let bulimia control you, there is so much more out there. (: go for it with Beat, they're really really good at what they do. tell your friends, i think they will surprise you.. mine were the most amazing support in some really dark times.. good luck, i'll be thinking of you (:
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    i was in exactly your situation, but after 8 months i went to a routine dental checkup and was told i needed two fillings, after never having any teeth problems previously. The dentist was also very concerned about my enamel and put it down to diet, telling me to lay off things like acidic fizzy drinks and stuff. I had a permenant stomach ache, avoided eating in public and got extremely paranoid about always knowing where the nearest bathroom was. I wasn't binging, just eating normally then losing all of it.
    Yet people were telling me i looked great, if a little tired.
    Noone knows i was ever bulimic, but i have stopped almost completely, though i am still often tempted and probably do it about once a month. Overall i lost about 2.5stone, but it was NOT worth it. It was making life awful, and i was finding i was only thinking about it all the time.
    I gave up in the summer time too, and what really helped was eating mainly outside, like, taking a picnic to the park or whatever, so i wouldn't be able to have a convenient place to do it.
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    i really feel for you i was also bulimic, for 2 years, and each time i told myself it was the last time. i eventually got irregular heart rhythms, the wrst IBS (I still have it) and had to have very expensive root canal from broken rotting teeth. one dy i just got so tired that i just told my um, she was so shocked and i didnt go into detail with her to upset her more. but i told her because i was fed up with what i was doing and wanted to get better so tell your family that you're telling them because you need their help stopping, dont worry there's no way they can be mad at you, they'll have wanted to know so they can help.

    about telling friends, be very careful who you tell, i only told one person so it doesnt spread/people dont think you want attention. but a really good friends will understand and be able to stop you purging when your tempted. good luck and please stop before you get sicker, its no fun.
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    (Original post by sidoraH)
    i really feel for you i was also bulimic, for 2 years, and each time i told myself it was the last time. i eventually got irregular heart rhythms, the wrst IBS (I still have it) and had to have very expensive root canal from broken rotting teeth. one dy i just got so tired that i just told my um, she was so shocked and i didnt go into detail with her to upset her more. but i told her because i was fed up with what i was doing and wanted to get better so tell your family that you're telling them because you need their help stopping, dont worry there's no way they can be mad at you, they'll have wanted to know so they can help.
    well done for your recovery! how long did it take (stopping purging), (if you dont mind me asking)...

    I want to see my G.P. badly, BUT what if he wants to refer me somewhere? I just want him to check if there's any damage done to my stomach and oesophagus and that is it... I believe I dont need to see a counsellor, I can hadle that by myself.
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    thanks! it might be better if your GP refers you somewhere epsecially if the damage done was serious, because even when you stop you'l still have to cope with stress in other ways, they'll help you have a healthy relationship with food again - I wish id done this. i never went to the doctor about it tho.
    i stopped purging about 2 weeks after i talked about it, but unfortunatly not because i wanted to, only because it was physically too hard and painful to vomit anymore and i was getting asthma attacks from it - dont let it get to this please, best of luck
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    Hi guys, it's me again. Instead of making another thread, I'll just write my bulimia-related question on here.

    My teeth have gone yellowish-colour. How can I get them back to "white"? I don't smile much anymore, in case anyone notices how yellow my teeth are... *sigh*

    P.S. I have stopped binging/purging a day after making this tread and haven't been sick since then (thank to you guys, obv.). I eat normally, although I make sure I don't overeat, otherwise I might be tempted to go back to my old ways.
    I don't think about food as much as I did and I can concentrate on my studies.

    Thank you for all your help. I couldn't have done it without you
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    p.s.s. By asking how can I get them back to white, shall I buy some teeth-whitening products???
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    yes they usually help, so does baking soda on your toothpaste, and crushed strawberries apperently because of some enzyme or something.

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