[Anonymous]

Post as anon please or delete.

I'm gay, and I met this boy last year who's clearly gay but his religions important to him. Anyway we went with eachother and stuff but then he was a real idiot to me due to his religion and the relationship was very off and on and in the end I ended up just ending it all.

Anyway, I met another boy through this guy who lives in another city. We ended up falling for eachother and had a long distance relationship, he really means a lot to me. This guy though fancied my ex before we met so I was always a little self conscious about it but I dealt with it and never minded when they phoned eachother etc.

But just recently its starting to get a little serious between them so I confronted my current boyfriend who said he did infact have feelings for my ex. So I tried to talk to him about it but couldn't get anywhere, I've tried to explain to him that he will NEVER get with my ex cause my ex is too in to his religion and his family.

So I said to my boyfriend are you willing to lose my ex for me, and the answer was no. So I've just deleted every possible way of him contacting me but I'm incredibly gutted. I know they are really good friends but I can't cope that my current boyfriend has feelings for my ex, I just feel a little cheated.

Do you think I'm being selfish? Or do you think I'm being totally right about this? Does anyone have any advice?

Thanks.

[Combustion Chamber]

He really means a lot to me - If he means so much you will just leave it an move on.

[Anonymous]

so its okay that he has these strong feelings for my ex and its okay for them to continue to have this really close relationship whilst he is seeing me?

[icn06]

Forget about both of then and find someone who is ready to be in a proper relationship with you.

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by icn06

Forget about both of then and find someone who is ready to be in a proper relationship with you.

I thought that too...

[hannahhi]

If it's making you unhappy, maybe it's time to leave it and move on? It's probably easier said than done, but if it means in the long run you can be with someone who likes you and doesn't have feelings for anyone else, wouldn't that be better?

[sarah_22_16]

Leave him for someone who can commit to you and ONLY YOU physically and emotionally. If someone i was with had feelings for someone else and was in an emotional relationship thats in more than a friend way, i would consider that just as bad as physically cheating.

[icn06]

Originally Posted by Anonymous

I thought that too...

The time you spend trying to figure those two out, especially when you recognize the situation for what it is, is time wasted with someone you could be happy with.

[Mrs Cullen]

If he was a true boyfriend and a really nice guy, then he would never have said that he wouldn't put you before the ex guy. He is not worth it, if he's not willing to give you priority. You're perfectly right to feel hurt and upset by his behaviour, he shouldn't be having feelings for someone else if he's in a relationship.

I think you're right to end it and stop contact with both of them. You deserve much better and deserve to be happy with someone who treats you right.