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Is my mum racist?

I wasn't really sure where to put this, as I'm not looking for advice, but it links to a problem in my life. I'm seeing an Asian guy (I'm white) at my university. It's not serious or anything, but when my mum called yesterday to see how I was (I hadn't bothered to call her in a fortnight), I ended up bringing him into the conversation and she got really annoyed. She said things like 'oh Keleigh why are you doing this to me?' and 'Indians (even though he's not ******* Indian :mad:

) make good friends, but they're not there for that sort of thing'. I was getting really frustrated on the phone and telling my mum to stfu etc.

Is this normal talk from her generation though, or is she a bona fide racist?

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Reply 1

Darkel

Not necessarily. She just may be concerend about a culture clash between the families. Asian families are just as bad.

Reply 2

rakata

Tbh I think it's more a generation thing. Ignore her. My friend is mixed race and her grandparents freaaaaaked when we was born (they're white) but they're fine now :smile:

Reply 3

username196545

No, not neccesarily. My mum would be much worse.

Reply 4

Neo

Yes, your mother is clearly racist.

Reply 5

Ribbits

It sounds as though she doesn't dislike them as people, but is just scared of you marrying into an Asian family because of the big culture differences. If it does get serious and you turn out to love him and want to be with him forever, she could probably be won round - especially if his family is welcoming of the idea.

Reply 6

bradburyj

wait untill you try to fit in with his family...

Reply 7

loveisjustasong

The word "racist" is thrown around a lot. Did she say anything to suggest that the asian race are inferior? She sounds a bit prejudice. A lot of people are, even my parents (who are of completely different races).

I'd disown you.

At least she isn't suggesting honour killing you, which is what some Indians do if they disapprove of partner choices. Think yourself lucky that you got away with just being told off.

Reply 10

rmanoj

Xenopus

At least she isn't suggesting honour killing you, which is what some Indians do if they disapprove of partner choices. Think yourself lucky that you got away with just being told off.

Indian parents seem to get a lot of abuse here. I feel I should point out that mine are liberal, not religious and not racist.

Reply 11

jammythedodger

x-keleigh-x

Generational thing, I know my mum wouldn't be totally comfortable if I were to go out with an Asian or even a European for that matter. If she hasn't told you that you can't see him, then just let her have her opinions. My mum and Nan (bless them) are rascist, but its who they are and how they were brought up. Aslong as there good parents in general it doesn't matter :smile:

Reply 12

DiscoInferno

lol at telin ur mum to stfu

id have knocked ur teeth out

Nah, just ignorant.

x-keleigh-x

Is this normal talk from her generation though, or is she a bona fide racist?

OP, if your mum is this:

Then she is..

If not, probably not..

Reply 15

style

nah shes not racist, maybe a bit ignorant, is he south asian or oriental? just curious

Reply 16

_Pondersome.

His family will be calling you alkinds when they find out.

Reply 17

Curly_hair_girl

I have to see her run before I decide.

Reply 18

PurpleMonkeyDishwasher

Racist, but a good shag.

Reply 19

TableChair

Just because some Asian families are worse, doesn't excuse her at all.

To me that sounds pretty racist, "they're not there for that" implies she thinks they're inferior, which is racist.