[shuperstar]

I've posted on here before about my body confidence issues, basically i have an alright body yet all i see in the mirror is imperfections and bits i want to change.
I go through peaks and troughs of manic exercising, healthy eating, having confidence, not having confidence.

I've been with my bf for over a year now so i really shouldn't be allowing these insecurities to impact upon my relationship but it does every now and again. It's so stupid but i can't help it.

Thing is, uni is a small place, mutual friends on facebook etc, and the fact that we're very open about our pasts and everything mean that i've seen a couple of his exes and several of the girls he's pulled on nights out.
HIs past conquests and even celebrities he likes fall in to 2 categories:1) petite tanned brunettes
2) stereotypical blondes

Im definitely neither of the above. I'm not his type at all. This makes me feel rubbish. I'd love to be blonde and glamourous or dark and exotic, but im neither!
I'm just a dull, girl next door looking type. This is the bain of my life and the fact that his exes are everything im not bugs me.

It feels as if these girls are the headturning girls he likes to drool over, but im the safe 'girlfriend' option who won't cheat or attract other guys.

Should i make little adjustments?
Any confidence boosting tips?
Anyone else resent their body or been in the same situation?
Guys, if your girlfriend isn't your usual type what does it mean?

[Stikki]

Perhaps he's more interested in your personality.

[Creepy]

Originally Posted by shuperstar

I'm just a dull, girl next door looking type.

Just because you think that of yourself doesn't mean he does. My girlfriend isn't a stereotypical blonde, she isn't a 'dark mysterious brunette' as you say, but she is naturally beautiful and has a great personality. That is what attracts me to her.

[whitepearlbaby]

Well, congratulations. You're probably the first girlfriend he has chosen not solely based on their looks. I'm sure you look lovely anyway I'm sure you've got loads more brains than all these barbie dolls!

[ferry500]

Your profile says your blonde lol. If he didn't like you he wouldn't be with you in the first place.

[xwardax]

Originally Posted by shuperstar

I've posted on here before about my body confidence issues, basically i have an alright body yet all i see in the mirror is imperfections and bits i want to change.
I go through peaks and troughs of manic exercising, healthy eating, having confidence, not having confidence.

I've been with my bf for over a year now so i really shouldn't be allowing these insecurities to impact upon my relationship but it does every now and again. It's so stupid but i can't help it.

Thing is, uni is a small place, mutual friends on facebook etc, and the fact that we're very open about our pasts and everything mean that i've seen a couple of his exes and several of the girls he's pulled on nights out.
HIs past conquests and even celebrities he likes fall in to 2 categories:1) petite tanned brunettes
2) stereotypical blondes

Im definitely neither of the above. I'm not his type at all. This makes me feel rubbish. I'd love to be blonde and glamourous or dark and exotic, but im neither!
I'm just a dull, girl next door looking type. This is the bain of my life and the fact that his exes are everything im not bugs me.

It feels as if these girls are the headturning girls he likes to drool over, but im the safe 'girlfriend' option who won't cheat or attract other guys.

Should i make little adjustments?
Any confidence boosting tips?
Anyone else resent their body or been in the same situation?
Guys, if your girlfriend isn't your usual type what does it mean?

Im so glad you created this thread, i was just about to create the same one.
My bf makes it seem like the stereotypical blondes (with long legs) and black girls (with big asses) are the most attractive females on this planet. It makes me feel like complete ****, i can't change myself to look either way. Its ridiculous, i know i should let him accept me for who i am but i want to be the one he drools over. Its uncomfortable when i see him looking at other girls while i'm with him.

I feel the same way you do lets hope someone can help us out

[Saraaaa!]

If you looking anything like Ali Bastian. I'm sure you're much more attractive than you think!

[LivstaR-K]

you know i think all girls feel like this at some point, ive been with my bf a good few years now and although he tells me he loves me to bits etc etc i still get funny sometimes when hes like 'oh shes gorgeous' when he sees a typical 'barbie' or gorgeous brunette !Although i really know its quite a good thing the fact that he has chosen me over all the the other girls and to be quite honest most boys wouldnt ever want a serious relationship with a girl that looked like a barbie - and thats why hes with you. i think you need to see it as more of a positive thing even if it doesnt feel like it all the time !

[shuperstar]

Originally Posted by ferry500

Your profile says your blonde lol. If he didn't like you he wouldn't be with you in the first place.

I'm not anymore lol, reverted to the boring mousey natural colour.

[shuperstar]

Originally Posted by Saraaaa!

If you looking anything like Ali Bastian. I'm sure you're much more attractive than you think!

Well im not blonde anymore so i don't now.
Anyway, she's not "hot" is she, she's more "pretty".

[Jack QC]

Being completely honest...I prefer the, as you put it, "dull girl next door type" to anything else. I think its probably completely normal for you to be feeling like this but do bear in mind that its you that hes with now! Not them! If he didnt like you more than them, he would still be with them!

Keep remembering that

x

[Saraaaa!]

Originally Posted by shuperstar

Well im not blonde anymore so i don't now.
Anyway, she's not "hot" is she, she's more "pretty".

I'd rather be pretty or beautiful than hot or fit any day.

[SacreBleu]

Originally Posted by shuperstar

This is the bain of my life and the fact that his exes are everything im not bugs me.

You're everything that his exes arent, thats why hes with you.

Not the other way round.