gf refuses to give blowjob

Nice idea but profoundly wrong. Culture and upbringing have everything to do with sexual desires.

If it wasn't so, then we'd have similar sexual practices in every country, which simply isn't the case.
Not to sound like some sleazebag who goes around Europe bedding women, but from experience, I can confidently claim that sexual practices and preferences vary immensely from country to country.

Your statement doesn't surprise me as people don't naturally accept the idea of how much their culture and upbringing shapes who they are. We all like to believe that we are free individuals void of any external influence that would prevent us from being who we really are.

i actually was talking about in the UK, as if you look at what i quoted someone called someone else 'snobby' as if upper class people shouldnt do things like that.
i am aware that it was a generalisation but i was talking within the uk, and before you pick faults with that and say there are of lots of religions, i mean you bog standard person on the street.

In most cases girls will give oral sex before having intercourse. If you have had sex with her then you can safely assume that she will probably not give you oral sex - ever. Things might change but neither of you sound particularly mature so I would not count on it.

ive talked and talked, even begged.

I'm glad I read through this thread. I am in perhaps a similar situation. My girlfriend and I have been in love for over 2 years, she's my best friend etc etc and I never want to leave her, and she feels exactly the same way. However, the lack of physical intimacy is so frustrating- she never 'wants' me physically, I always have to ask her, and although she tells me she does desire me, it feels like she doesn't. I am always having to plead with her, and she always says no. We have been semi-naked together (which always requires much begging), and kissing her on the breasts is the most intimate we've been. She says she likes this, but I think she just says that to make me happy. Whenever we talk about sex, she says she wants to, but "one day". It's not a marriage thing- we both don't believe in marriage. It is extremely frustrating given that I am madly in love with her and have been with her for over 2 years! Sometimes I think she must be asexual or something! And yet I know she is in love with me. Any advice?

Hey, how old are the two of you ?

i am 20 years old, she is 19, we met in college/6th form. we are not kids, im very much an adult and behave like one, therefore id like an adult relationship

We are both 20, and it hurts me a lot, because I love her beyond words, and I know she loves me, and we want to spend the rest of our lives together. But she seems to have no sexual desire for me, or anyone else for that matter. She says I'm beautiful etc etc, but just..oh I don't know.

Maybe she's just not ready? Maybe she wants to wait till she's married? Maybe she's afraid because she's never done it before?

Have you tried having a proper conversation about it, where she can really open up to you maybe about why she's afraid of doing it? I'm sure she finds you attractive it's just not what all girls want. some people never want anything sexual in a relationship. If thats how she feels at the end of the day you have to ask yourself can you cope without any sexual contact, i know i couldnt.

lol no offense or anything, but you should kinda respect her decision as giving a blow job isn't exatly the norm. Though I could possibly sympathise with you if she said she would never give you sex.

The worst thing (from your perspective) is that if she meets a man she truely desires she will give up the pussy at a speed that would make even Usain Bolt say "Even I couldn't catch that up!"