All relationships are different, but there’s some stuff that lots of happy couples have in common
Love can be pretty brilliant sometimes, can’t it? Sure, there are always going to be plenty of ups and downs but nothing gives the warm-and-fuzzies like being in a really great relationship.
Here are a few signs that your relationship is on the right track, with tips and advice from TSR members.
You trust that you have each other’s backs
Trust is a huge part of any relationship. It’s really hard to be happy with someone if you don’t trust them, or if they don’t trust you.
Couples in great relationships don’t give each other any reason to feel distrustful – they’re honest and open with each other, and always mindful of their partner’s feelings.
They also feel secure enough in their relationship to resist assuming that their other half must be off cheating on them if they don’t reply to texts within, like, 20 seconds.
You tell your partner if you’re annoyed (in a nice way)
It can feel easier to just let it slide (or to silently sulk) if your boyfriend or girlfriend has done something to irritate you. But it’s much better to get it all out in the open – you don’t want to risk letting it all build up until you explode with frustration and rage.
Unless you’re dating a literal mind-reader, it’s not really fair to expect them to know that when they bite their nails you want to throw them out of a window, after all.
When you argue, you don’t fight dirty
While everyone’s bound to argue at some point, that doesn’t mean that you should be constantly nit-picking at your partner or starting furious screaming matches over whether they were flirting with your best friend.
Couples in great relationships can stay (relatively) calm while they talk through their issues, and stick to the point of the disagreement – dredging up other stuff from the past may feel brilliant in the moment, but it’s rarely helpful when it comes to resolving an argument.
And it’s worth remembering that you can’t both always be right – the happiest couples know that a little bit of compromise isn’t a bad thing.
You love hanging out with each other
It’s always a good sign if there’s nobody you’d rather spend time with than each other – even the little everyday stuff can feel fun if you’re doing it with your other half.
You don’t totally rely on them to make you happy
The healthiest couples aren’t totally reliant on each other to feel happy, but keep up their own interests and friendship groups. Having a strong sense of self is only going to benefit your relationship, after all.