I don't fancy him. But I can't let him go.

I met this guy on the first ever day at university (im in my third year).
Back in feburary he declared his love for me. Me and him are so so so close, he loves me for who I am, something I have never had in my life.
However, not to sound big headed but i have a great deal of attention from other boys, as a result I have not committed to my best friend. I spend all the time talking to him, wanting to be with him, we have done everything but sex. Last week I went to his mums party in which i met his ENTIRE family which all loved me.
But i STILL don't want to be with him, i dont feel entirely attracted to him, but then i reallllllly care about him. Everytime I have told him i need a break from him (and its happened alot) i go back on my word and just see him anyway. I am confused about my feelings, can anyone else please?

You think you're confused? Imagine how this poor guy feels - you've known him a long time now and your relationship is sexual, but it's not a relationship... it sounds like you need to get a grip here and realise that if you doubt your feelings for someone, you don't go there as they would end up hurt if you backed away. But you leave him, then come back to him, and then repeat the process. Have you ever considered his feelings in this, apart from the fact that his adoration makes you feel good? That is why you are attached to him. Don't think that because someone is in love with you, you have to give them affection back - cruel as that sounds. To be quite honest I don't know how he's put up with your behaviour so long. Please, if you don't feel that way for him, cease whatever sexual link you have, otherwise you will just string him along even further, confuse him and break his heart.

Question: why are you letting this great deal of attention from other boys prevent you from developing a stronger relationship with your best friend? Is it due to enjoying the attention and worried that if you are in a relationship, this attention will subside? Because it sounds like you two have a great relationship!

Btw, f you don't fancy him, what's the problem.

Think you need to reread OP as she clearly states no sex.



I agree with this. Think she's more interested in maintaining her popularity with all the boys and being in a relationship would tend to put a damper on flirting etc.

You do realise that you don't have to engage in intercourse for it to become sexual right?

However, not to sound big headed but i have a great deal of attention from other boys, as a result I have not committed to my best friend. I spend all the time talking to him, wanting to be with him, we have done everything but sex. Last week I went to his mums party in which i met his ENTIRE family which all loved me.

I met this guy on the first ever day at university (im in my third year).
Back in feburary he declared his love for me. Me and him are so so so close, he loves me for who I am, something I have never had in my life.
However, not to sound big headed but i have a great deal of attention from other boys, as a result I have not committed to my best friend. I spend all the time talking to him, wanting to be with him, we have done everything but sex. Last week I went to his mums party in which i met his ENTIRE family which all loved me.
But i STILL don't want to be with him, i dont feel entirely attracted to him, but then i reallllllly care about him. Everytime I have told him i need a break from him (and its happened alot) i go back on my word and just see him anyway. I am confused about my feelings, can anyone else please?