Parents went on my facebook...

Im so so so angry and upset , because my parents are so paranoid about what i do in my life. I was going out with some friends tonight for a bit , and i get a phonecall suggesting i come home immediately. Turns out just cos a friend of mine mentioned himself picking up weed from someone they go SICK at me .

I mean never mind the result of the argument cos i made them realise what they did was wrong , but i dont know what to do . I feel violated and they dont trust me ! What can i do to stop them being so paranoid about what i do , Im 18 and i go and meet friends sometimes in the evenings ... thats it. My parents are boxing me in at home and i didnt move away to uni , but they are making me seriously think about moving out .

I've always been close to my mum , but i dont understand how they feel the need to check on me all the time, especially by invading my privacy .

All my passwords have been changed also before people mention it
Any advice would be appreciated thanks

Edited : My parents arent a 'friend' on my facebook , they hacked onto my facebook account

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Reply 1

Mittalmar

Tell to them **** off... you are an adult and as long as you behave like one you are entitled to be treated so.

Reply 2

Tommyjw

I know what its like, but they are parents, its what they do, worrying is their job.
Would you rather have parents who didnt care what you did at all and didnt care about you? You may THINK you'd rather have this, but trust me, it isnt the best .

Reply 3

NS17

You have your own computer? If so just lock your user profile when you go out, I do that when I leave my room door open so my flat mates don't frape me to ****.

Your parents sound totally mad and remind of mine. Maybe it's something that happens to everyone. Just tell them to back off or you're moving out, unless they're doing it to make you move out.

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Murk them.

my parents stalk my profile ¬_¬ my mum practically comments on everything i do it's soooooooo annoying :nooo:

i feel like i can't talk about certain stuff on there with my friends as they will just go ape **** at me for it, i swear they still see me as an innocent little girl whose never done anything wrong or "bad" :rolleyes:

tbh that idea will go wayyyyyyyyyyy out the window if they knew about some of the stuff thats happened :mmm:

Reply 6

Newton4

Original post by NS17

You have your own computer? If so just lock your user profile when you go out, I do that when I leave my room door open so my flat mates don't frape me to ****.

Your parents sound totally mad and remind of mine. Maybe it's something that happens to everyone. Just tell them to back off or your moving out, unless they're doing it to make you move out.

nah its not to make me move out aha , my mum says she doesnt want me to ever as a joke , but i think the issue here is they still think im a child . I think they still see me as one and i think adapting to me being older and driving and stuff is really hard. Im just struggling to find a way of making them see that i dont get up to stuff when im out. Ive tried telling them and at the time they act like they accept what im saying , but obv not when they go and read my facebook chats with people.
How can i get them to loosen how protective they are , i understand they are worried but there must be a line !

Reply 7

think1

They love you that's why they do it. I wouldn't do it if I had kids but just know that you some people's parents don't care that much(not talking about myself here). That being said put a password on your facebook. Also talk to them. Explain that its an invasion of your privacy and you should feel like they should trust you. Just have a proper talk with them.

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Reply 8

NS17

Original post by Newton4

Being brutally honest, my parents were the same so I had to move out, might be your only option!

Reply 9

username291885

There's caring and there's too much.

Reply 10

KhizzReynzz

Original post by amiejade-x

my parents stalk my profile ¬_¬ my mum practically comments on everything i do it's soooooooo annoying :nooo:

tbh that idea will go wayyyyyyyyyyy out the window if they knew about some of the stuff thats happened :mmm:

are you me?! Ha ha exactly the same for me...my mum even started speaking to my uni friends today D: they're like "oh your mum is so cool" and I'm just like "nooooo save yourselves!"

My mum is a lot more liberal though, she won't grate at me too much, just take the p*ss really!

Reply 11

amiejade-x

Original post by KhizzReynzz

i wish mine was like that, they are really protective of me, they don't expect me to do anything wrong so to speak, so if they found out stuff, they would just go ballistic. so i generally don't tell them anything that happens at uni that they would get mad at :mmm:

Reply 12

TimD

Original post by amiejade-x

my parents stalk my profile ¬_¬ my mum practically comments on everything i do it's soooooooo annoying :nooo:

tbh that idea will go wayyyyyyyyyyy out the window if they knew about some of the stuff thats happened :mmm:

Original post by KhizzReynzz

If you don't like your parents on facebook why have them as 'friends'? I'd never accept my parents on facebook, and all the family I do have is in a group with different privacy settings so they actually still can't see anything even though they're friends with me, which I don't think they've noticed yet... :P

Though even that feels too much for me, I'm very tempted to remove them completely. Then again, I'm not actually friends (as in proper mates/pals etc) with any of my family and don't socialise with them. I have an extremely strict separation between family life and social life and rarely let them cross.

Reply 13

lifeplayer

You gotta talk with them, telling them that you have your own privacy. Tell them how you feel and ask them what if someone trying to break into their privacy

Reply 14

amiejade-x

Original post by TimD

can't exactly remove them now, they'd be pissed, espec my mum :colonhash:

i get on really well with my mum, i'm the oldest, i've only been away for 2 months, shes finding it hard without me bla bla bla, she uses facebook to keep in contact with me, which obvs i dont mind, its just the always commenting on what i do, and obviously i know she is going to look through everything and who i talk to and what i say to them. i dont want to feel like ive got to be on my best behaviour and actively not say stuff on it and post things and sometimes delete what my friends say because of my parents and worry about what they will think

Reply 15

LW5x01

Original post by amiejade-x

my parents stalk my profile ¬_¬ my mum practically comments on everything i do it's soooooooo annoying :nooo:

tbh that idea will go wayyyyyyyyyyy out the window if they knew about some of the stuff thats happened :mmm:

You know, you can just limit what your mum sees on your facebook, so she wouldn't be able to see what you're writing and so on, you just need to fiddle around with the privacy settings and stuff.

Reply 16

Faith01

My parents trust me and they can see me on facebook etc but they would never go as far as logging into my account, the most they would do is probably peek from behind for a second.

I understand how annoying it would be.

Reply 17

Mr-Dangerous

Block them on your Facebook, and also change your privacy settings so that anyone who's not your friend, cannot see anything apart from your name, your sex and your profile picture. Just don't put any pictures up as your profile picture of you smoking weed. :P