Brother's being bullied at Uni

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Reply 20

py0alb

Original post by Smeh

...Pretty sure that integral in your sig is wrong...
/nerd.

Poor guy though :frown:

You're right, it should be half love squared times infinity.

Reply 21

Steezy

Original post by callum9999

Really? I would of thought a more likely scenario would be they hit him back and as he is outnumbered, get physical abuse added to the list.

It will probably take a long time to sort out but reporting it all to people in charge sounds like the only way to sort it out.

I disagree. Most bullies just want to take the piss out of people with no consequences. If they know they're gonna get a smack in the mouth if they take the piss out of someone, they will think twice about doing it.

Reply 22

Smeh

Original post by py0alb

You're right, it should be half love squared times infinity.

Yay thought I was going crazy or something.
Or is though just be int1 dheart.

Reply 23

HarryA

Go there with a bunch of your friends and say something like:

"If that's how you treat those who are close to you how the hell do you expect to get girlfriends? We've all just seen how you treat my brother and none of you are ever going to get with any of us. You guys might as well screw each other because you are never going to get a nice girls with treating people like that".

Reply 24

salma4eva

the first week i moved to student accomodation, i few boys thought they could bully me because i was quiet and didn't socialise with the people in the house. they would make so much noise outside my room at 4 in the morning. this went on for a couple of days. i thought they would give up and leave me alone but it only got worse. until one day when they were making noise in the morning. i got up, enough was enough, i wasn't going to be going though this again. i left my room drabbed my hockey stick. started shouting at four guys and threated them, next time i see them outside my door, i would bet the crap out of them. ever since that day i haven't heard noise outside my room at 4 in the morning.

wat am trying to say is that if your brother stood up for himself. and made everyone aware that people are annoying him. then i guess it would stop.

gudluck to your bro

Reply 25

prettygreen

You could report any damaging or offensive photos to Facebook.
In the mean time, find your local branch of Jehovah's Witnesses and post them the bullies addresses, clearly stating how they have shown great interest in the ways of the Lord, and are available to chat between the hours of 1 and 5AM...

Reply 26

newts2k

Original post by vms1993

Alright so my brother only just went off to uni this year and people are bullying him like mad.

My brother has a pretty eccentric character and yes he's different. He has mild asperger's so sometimes he finds it difficult to talk to people but he's really trying.
He's a really kind person and he's tried making friends but the people he's surrounded by are modern teenagers who just don't give a toss about his feelings. Technically my brother's at aviation school and he has exams in a few weeks so he's been working his butt off aaaannnd apparently he's been getting crap for working so hard for something he absolutely loves.

All over facebook they take photos and mock him. I heard him talking to my mum the other night about how one guy knocks on his door in the middle of the night everyday just to wake him up. Apparently pulling pranks and stealing his stuff are of the norm.

Could you give me any advice as his younger sister that I could possibly pass onto him? I'm really worried and I hate to see him this upset.

God I hate teenagers (those kind). Ok, is your brother a big guy? If so, he needs to stand up to them and beat the crap out of one and the others will leave him alone. Sadly, with boys, thats the only way. Either that or he needs to move elsewhere at campus. You need to simplify these things.

Reply 27

Alvrae

tell him to stick a sedative in there drink the morning of there exams.

Reply 28

pugnacitas

Is this Oxford Aviation Academy? My neighbor goes there...

Reply 29

Anonymous #1

some stupid advice on this thread
if he confronts them, they will either laugh thinking its hilarious, if hes the kinda guy the think they can walk over he isnt going to be able to act threatening,if he punches them, chances are hell get punched back
in reality the best advice is to either record the incidents like someone said and if it continues then report it
or if he keeps himself to himself it will go away, there was someone with aspergers in my accomodation, the reason he was bullied was because he was just a weirdo, didnt realise he wasnt welcome so followed people around and just spoke about pc games, then when drunk he was hilarious
he seemed to realise and now keeps to himself a bit more goign out with people on his course occasionally, and the bullying has stopped

Reply 30

Jarlsberg

Original post by callum9999

Bullies, especially (I assume) if they are at university, are cunning bastards who know who and what to attack. As much as I don't want to say it, being handicapped in some way does work to an advantage; any form of assault is taken extremely seriously, and it generally decreases the popularity of those bullying. I don't think violence is a great way to fight back, and should only be a last resort (or if the opportunity arises it's always fun to smack them in the mouth), but I think the best option for their brother would be to film/have witnesses around so they can report the incidents. Bullying may not be a crime, but physical and verbal abuse, descrimination and deliberate anti-social activities are.

Reply 31

Cable

I'm sorry to hear about what's happening to your brother. I haven't much advice to you that hasn't been said above. Hope things work out for him. One of the best advices above, is if he could move to a different accommodation within the university after providing evidence of theft, abuse and bullying. Good luck. It's sad to hear about these things. How can some people be so wicked, for no good reason?

Reply 32

newlife

Original post by vms1993

have you considered talking to the bullies themselves and notifying them of his disorder? I'd like to hope they'd realise their jackass-nature and stop. I know you're brother would find it embarassing for them to know, but it might just be in his best interest.

or, urge your brother to request a move of halls, and let him give bullying as an excuse. University don't take kindly to that stuff at all, and will help him out straight away.

I'm sorry to hear he's going through difficult times, it amazes me that university students could be so immature. What university is your brother at, out of curiousity?

Reply 33

Cybele

It's nice you're looking out for him. :h:

Sad state of affairs when adults at university resort to petty bullying. Can he not speak to someone at the uni about it? There are usually people there to deal with bullying/personal issues.

Reply 34

think1

get him to stick up for himself if he just takes it they'll continue to bully him

Reply 35

Cheshire_Cat

Original post by py0alb

This kind of **** always surprises me. From my experience, uni students have left that kind of behaviour behind once they move away from home and into a completely new group of friends. If a guy in my first year halls had been a **** to one of the shy/disabled kids, he would have been given a mouthful of abuse, socially ostracised, possibly even punched.

I would recommend that your brother confronts the main ******* in front of the group as a whole. Surely to god there must be one person there who isn't a complete dickhead, and will stand up for your brother and tell the bully to go **** himself?

They're like that on my course, for a while a thought the OP was talking about a guy on my course. I do sometimes fantasize about someone just going up to them and punching the living daylights out of them :tongue:

Reply 36

TheSocialScientist

Original post by pippa90

If you study close to London or Oxford I volunteer for the beating up, I'd like to channel my hate for bullies in a few, well-directed crosses, hooks and uppercuts.

Reply 37

TheSocialScientist

Original post by aprilterri

get him to stick up for himself if he just takes it they'll continue to bully him

It's really not that easy, if your suggestion were to be mishandled, i.e. the OP's brother lacked firmness in his reaction, the situation could get much worse.

I'm sorry to say this but he needs to be helped from the outside, both being supported by close people and having the bullies ostracised, shouted at and publicly humiliated by the other students there. I hope it will happen.

Reply 38

maljebo

do they know he has aspergers? If not then he could guilt the crap out of them, and perhaps then they'll stop.

If they do, then they are vile.

Reply 39

llpokermuffinll

Original post by vms1993

I'm so sorry to hear that (assuming its a true story). I never expected adults would do anything like that. It breaks my heart to hear this.

I would suggest you as a younger sister might go with him once and tell the ones who bully him off. They wouldn't ignore a girl. They will listen to you and hopefully stop it. Tell them about his feelings, or about his Asperger's.

I'm sorry I couldn't think of anything else, but really shocking to hear that. Hope he gets settled soon and is happy.