Is Uni really the best place for meeting a partner?

Is it true that Uni is the best place for flirting and meeting a partner?
There's quite a lot of evidence in statistics that most people meet their husbands/wives/partners at Uni but is there really so much focus on getting a love life amongst students?
Any opinions/info would be good, I'm just generally curious.
Kristina

Reply 1

BigFudamental

No, it's a great place for losing one though.

Reply 2

doodle7

Personally, all of my closest friends at uni are girls. I lived in single sex flats and my course has a greater ratio of girls to boys so meeting guys is difficult outside nights out. I wouldn't say that any of my close friends are male so, for me, meeting a partner at uni is extremely difficult! I guess societies would be an option but the only one I regularly partake in is netball...again, all girls! I meet lots of guys on night's out but that's hardly ideal circumstances to meet a potential partner...
Also, I'd say there are more happily single people at uni, as opposed to people looking for relationships. A relationship has definitely been the last thing on my mind throughout uni...

Reply 3

SamiFFXIII

Hmmm i too ask myself this question, i assume so. Im purely basing this on the social feedback i have received, as no one is shy and everyone is introductory it seems like the fitting place. Plus a new start, yeh it seems to be for me. Where else? Except for a dating site of course lol. :cool:

Reply 4

py0alb

It's pretty good, you're exposed to a huge number of reasonably like-minded people. That's not to say that there aren't other good places to meet people outside of uni, like your job, your apartment block, your sports club etc etc.

Reply 5

StarryEyed91

Original post by KriVol

Haha if you put the words 'casual' and 'sex' in front of 'partner', then yes.

Reply 6

py0alb

Original post by doodle7

Do you think this may have been your mistake?

Reply 7

f00ddude

its great for finding sex/casual partners, but i havent really found any girls id want to date seriously
im guessing in 2nd and third years its more common to settle down

Reply 8

Philbert

It completely depends, I guess a lot people are looking for flings rather than anything serious. The majority of accommodation is mixed in most universities (My boyfriend and I were living in the same halls in the first year),and although some subjects are dominated by a certain gender, there is the opportunity to meet people interested in the same subject as you. It's a good place for finding people with similar interests, through societies and sports clubs etc.

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Reply 9

doodle7

Original post by py0alb

Do you think this may have been your mistake?

I don't think it was a mistake but, yes, it was a personal choice. Having only ever lived with my family I didn't like the idea of living with 'messy' boys :tongue:

Looking back now I would go for mixed sex if I had the choice again.

Reply 10

MagicNMedicine

Original post by KriVol

There's quite a lot of evidence in statistics that most people meet their husbands/wives/partners at Uni but is there really so much focus on getting a love life amongst students?

Is there??

I graduated a few years ago and I only know two people (one couple) from uni who got together at uni and are still together, they met in halls and were just right for each other.

I know a couple of people who found partners while they were at uni, but not from uni, they were from jobs they did at uni or a student at another uni in the same town.

Loads of people got a partner while at uni, but broke up while still at uni, or not long after.

I don't have any statistics but I would say anecdotally that maybe it was something in the past generation where people used to get their life partner at uni, because people married earlier in those days, I know a few people whose parents met at uni and got married, mine did for starters. These days I would say the typical university type person is more likely to meet somebody when they are a graduate and working, because thats the sort of time when you are looking for more stability, say you get a good job and are looking to stay in that city, and you meet a partner through work friends etc.

Also IMO it's easier to meet a partner who is girl/boyfriend material when you are working than when you are a student. Student nights are mainly getting trashed, dancing in clubs with loud music, these are environments more conducive to a quick drunken pull than a relationship, also everybody knows everybody so you have to start the early days of getting to know somebody whilst being subject to gossip. When you are working it's easier. Firstly people are more 'up for' a relationship (as opposed to a ONS), if you are a guy in late 20s/early 30s, then single women in their mid 20s who have decent jobs, are much more likely to be thinking in terms of finding a partner. Also the social environment is better, you have more money so can go to classier places and more likely to meet a partner. I think sometimes some students think that if they don't find a partner at uni they will be single for the rest of their lives...au contraire people....your chances enhance greatly IMO when you finish. Don't underestimate the value of socialising through work, actually I've met a lot of people through socialising with my flatmate's work, he's invited me on a few nights in town where he's gone with his work mates and I've got introduced to girls through that, who have got a bit beyond the stage of needing to take a picture every 5 minutes for their facebook.