Me: 20, female.
Guy I lost it to: Known for 7 months.
I liked him a LOT. He liked me back but wasn't looking for anything serious. So we just ended up having a very flirty friendship with heaps of sexual tension.
My 2 closest friends have never particularly liked the sound of him. They told me time and time again that he's no good for me and I should get out before I get hurt anymore (he hasn't always been a great guy, but I defended him and was rather blind because of how I felt about him).
The best friend who now won't speak to me actually told me she wouldn't speak to me properly if I ended up sleeping with him, because it would show I had no respect for her or for myself... Ok, maybe not for myself, but not for her? I don't get that... I'm thinking it was my decision to make and it doesn't have any effect on her so why should anything change between us? Why blackmail me?
I've tried talking to her but she got a call waiting and said she'd ring me back... never did. She's moved house so she's not local anymore and she won't text me back or answer my calls. I'm not bombarding her with calls/texts because I want to give her time and not be pushy, but I don't like how this feels. We used to speak almost every day, and ok fair enough she's been very busy with her own stuff, but I can't imagine what she's been
that busy with that she doesn't have time to clear the air with her best friend?
She's not even given me a chance to explain what actually happened! She's already assumed things that aren't true and thought I lied to her, so God only knows what else she's thinking... Last time we spoke was Saturday. We've been friends for 9 years and she's like a sister to me... We've been through a lot together and we're very close. (Past few weeks we've not had much contact because she's been so busy, but it feels worse now, like she's avoiding/ignoring me). I don't want to lose her over something stupid and I've already told her that, but still nothing. What do I do?