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girls, would you be ok if your bf...

went to strip clubs?

my boyfriend is going on a "lads only" weekend away in a fortnight for a friends birthday, and as far as i'm aware, there wont be any sight-seeing on the agenda - the main activity will involve heavy drinking and strip clubs.

he's been completely honest and open with the fact that he's going to these strip joints, which i appreciate, but i still hate the idea of him sitting there watching naked girls writhing about on stage.

i definitely wouldn't even think about forbidding him or anything, i mean i'm not the boss of him and i trust him, but i just really hate the idea of it. what do you people think?

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Reply 1

Alt__x

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(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 2

A_master

I think you should calm down. He's been honest and told you which is more than alot can say.

Strippers are there as a form of entertainment. So just live and let live.

Reply 3

User69701

Well he isn't goig to be getting anything from them unless it's one of those strip clubs in which case he'll get syph instead.

Reply 4

kat2pult

I'd be absolutely fine with it. I'd be glad he told me, and also reassured that strippers have limits about what can be done to them.

Reply 5

Dream Weaver

calm down, it's not like he's gonna cheat on you

Reply 6

Antonia87

Nope. I wouldnt like it. What woman would be totally happy with another woman shoving her arse in her boyfriend's face?

Reply 7

rylit91

Your feelings are perfectly justified. As a guy, I would never do such a thing, largely because a 'lads only weekend' sounds like hell on Earth. I certainly would not tolerate a gf watching naked men gyrate around her. I also don't agree with these places morally.

Reply 8

York2010

Nah I wouldn't be happy about it but TBH its not the sort of thing he'd do fortunately!

Reply 9

rugbyladosc

Original post by York2010

Nah I wouldn't be happy about it but TBH its not the sort of thing he'd do fortunately!

I bet he does lol

Reply 10

Yawn11

His first mistake was telling you.

Reply 11

staring.space

Guys will be guys.

Tbf, I had to watch my bf have a stripper for his 18th birthday and well, I blanked most of it out. Probably because she was more than twice his age. But that's a whole other story..

On a serious note, I would be a little anxious (I'm typically insecure sometimes) but as long as it was "look and don't grab" it wouldn't bother me excessively. Don't worry about it - it's purely entertainment.

If you're so worried, hire a male stripper the same weekend :biggrin:

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Reply 12

Potiron

Original post by staring.space

If you're so worried, hire a male stripper the same weekend :biggrin:

Not a bad idea actually. See if he gets upset about that idea.

Reply 13

Nkhan

Original post by staring.space

Guys will be guys.

Tbf, I had to watch my bf have a stripper for his 18th birthday and well, I blanked most of it out. Probably because she was more than twice his age. But that's a whole other story.. :|

On a serious note, I would be a little anxious (I'm typically insecure sometimes) but as long as it was "look and don't grab" it wouldn't bother me excessively. Don't worry about it - it's purely entertainment.

If you're so worried, hire a male stripper the same weekend :biggrin:

Lol yeah tell him your having a male stripper round yours :|

Reply 14

jumpingjesusholycow

Let him know your concerns. It probably won't stop him from going (and I wouldn't expect it to), but I think a fluid dialogue is necessary in a healthy relationship. No point in telling him you're okay with it if you're not.

Original post by Antonia87

Nope. I wouldnt like it. What woman would be totally happy with another woman shoving her arse in her boyfriend's face?

I'm honestly very surprised. I didn't expect that.

Reply 15

missygeorgia

Erm, it depends on the context. If I knew he was being dragged there by his laddish mates and was just going along with it rolling his eyes (which would prob be the case) then I wouldn't mind. If I thought he initiated it, or helped organise, or even if I thought he was enthusiastic about it, I'd definitely mind.

Reply 16

Smoosh

I wouldn't like it, but I wouldn't try and ban him from it or anything. Like others have said, you should feel reassured that he's told you and that there's going to be a limit of what the strippers are going to do anyway. Me and my boyfriend have a "look but don't touch" rule - so as long as it stayed within that, then I'd be ok :tongue:

Reply 17

Anonymous #2

My boyfriend asked me if I would care if he ever went to one. I said it might bother me a little if I'm honest.

He then told me I wasn't his wife, and therefore I have no say whatsoever.

Reply 18

Enchanté

Wouldn't like it, can't really stop him from going though.
Plus what others have strippers have a limit anyway.

Reply 19

staring.space

Original post by Nkhan

Lol yeah tell him your having a male stripper round yours :|

I was joking, essentially. I was trying to get across the idea that OP's boyfriend should be just as comfortable the other way round if he's going to a strip club himself.

S'all about trust.