Can't fall in love!!!

i've never been in love with a woman, but i have been infatuated by very many. whenever i see a girl that i find attractive (whether she's good looking or charming) the thoughts are always quite shallow; nothing ever goes beyond sex. i'm an extremely libidinous man with a number fetishes (which i will not disclose here) and can't seem to emotionally attach myself to any girl i know; to be honest, beyond sex i don't think much of women. i've never had any trouble speaking to women, but the reason why i don't want to make a move on one is because i fear that i might succeed: if i get a girlfriend, then what? i'm just not into women at an emotional level, but i feel the need to be.

so what do you think?

will i be doomed to a state of shallow bachelorhood or will a godsend of woman capture my heart?

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Reply 1

Liam 09

I'll get back to you on this.

Reply 2

oh-sugarrr

Yeah, people like you upset me. :frown:

but its just the way you lot are I guess.

I think you just havnt maybe met, you know the 'the love of your life' YET

Reply 3

-Invidious-

I feel the same way (bar the fetish bit), I haven't even been infatuated by a girl for 5 years. I just go to clubs, pull and that's it, bit of a sad existence imo. =(

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Reply 4

HARRY PUTAH

Whats so bad about ploughing some vag once ina while and kicking her out?

if you cannot love, can you learn to hate?

Reply 5

Bslforever

Just because you haven't fallen in love it doesn't mean that you can't.

Reply 6

JIRAIYA-ERO-SENNIN

Original post by Bslforever

Just because you haven't fallen in love it doesn't mean that you can't.

true, the title may be a tad melodramatic, but the problem is that i've been attracted to so many girls, really nice and charming ones in fact; but i cannot go that step further.

Reply 7

Colour Me Pretty

You're like the male version of me, except I have no odd fetishes.
I don't paticularly look at guys other than in a sexual way, and the rare ones I do get close to I eventually just disregard.

I just can't visiualise myself in a relationship. :dontknow:

I have issues. :moon:

Reply 8

T-go

I think a godsend of a woman will capture your heart.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 9

Diaz89

Oh noooooo the world is gonna end now

:rolleyes:

Reply 10

Journalistic

Original post by JIRAIYA-ERO-SENNIN

Same thing. Sucks, huh?

I assume one day something will change... I hope so, anyway!

Reply 11

left-handed notts boy

same. never happened to me, not sure if it ever will...just get on & live boy :wink:

Reply 12

shamim2k9

Have you checked that you're alive?

Reply 13

moaty...it's gazza

I'm exactly the same, bar the fetish thing (dont really get why you mentioned that)
I dont go on dates with girls because I feel as if I'd just be leading them on which I wouldnt want to do.
Cant complain mind as I do still enjoy one night stands

Reply 14

When will I know?

I can see where you're coming from.... and i think anyone may find themselves in this situation if they get quite a few people who are interested.

But i have to say... that you've not really bumped in to someone you like enough to want something more with them. Someone whom after getting to know them (just a little) makes you want more.... and become a little catious around them.

Although if you allow yourself to open up more, and spend more time with the other girls there is obviously every possibility for your feelings to get deeper.

I think its a bit of both... because not everyone is looking for a potential gf/bf when they meet new people, they just start liking someone a lot after getting to know them even a little (which makes them want to know more about the person)

So you've probably not come across someone who has grasped your attention 'instantly' after getting to know them a little and makes you think twice about your next action.
And secondly you're not giving yourself a chance for some reason.

I do think your problem could arise from sleeping around outside some sort of relationship....which just makes want women just for sex.
Or you have some insecure problems.. where you are scared of falling in love and getting hurt by it.
x

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Reply 15

meatzaper

Original post by Colour Me Pretty

I have issues. :moon:

I think its pretty cool that you think that way I fort it was just guys.... well not cool... something else I just can't think of a word for it....

its probably because your young and everything is a bit crazy??

Reply 16

love_junkie298

Original post by JIRAIYA-ERO-SENNIN

im the opposite to you, i wish i was like you!

Reply 17

StephenP91

You have a psychological condition and need help from a doctor. The average person should be able to quite easily form bonds with those around them unless they have suffered a psychological trauma in the past.