Every girl I meet has a boyfriend :(

Every girl you meet makes up that excuse, they don't really have BF's.

This just keeps getting more and more frustrating by the day. I've met girls at Uni, and almost all of them in class seem to have a boyfriend, I go out and meet girls in other places and they have boyfriends, my friends seem to be getting with girls more often than I do, and at the moment I'm just getting frustrated.

Can anyone just give me some words of advice here?

This just keeps getting more and more frustrating by the day. I've met girls at Uni, and almost all of them in class seem to have a boyfriend, I go out and meet girls in other places and they have boyfriends, my friends seem to be getting with girls more often than I do, and at the moment I'm just getting frustrated.

Can anyone just give me some words of advice here?

Actually, I called you a tool...

And what does being native have to do with this?


I have plenty of experience with women tyvm, and have yet to hear the 'I've got a boyfriend' line when it is not in fact true - maybe this is because girls actually want my attention hmmm?

If a girl tells me 'I've got a boyfriend', I delve a bit deeper and ask her 'What does that mean exactly?', and I tell her that I know girls lie about this stuff and I get her to be honest with me about her situation. I've broken a few girls down this way and got them to admit to me that they haven't really got a boyfriend, or that the guy they're 'seeing' isn't satisfying their needs. It's pretty easy to hook up with them after this.

So? Football has a goalie, don't mean you can't score.
Another thing, like stated in a previous post, most girls use the 'I have a boyfriends...' line as a initiation test, to see if you're worth it or not.

Best of luck

Go back to sleep, fool. I can tell by your reply you lack experience with women. Don't take the line 'I've got a boyfriend' at face value. You're wrong, it DOES NOT necessarily mean she has a boyfriend or that she doesn't want the likes of me pestering them.

When a girl says 'I've got a boyfriend', it could mean any of the following.....

- She actually does have a boyfriend

- She's 'kind of seeing' a guy who she classes as a 'boyfriend', but she's waiting for someone better to come along (in which case you've got a chance)

- It's just a shield/default response that she says to guys who approach her....but be persistent and talk to her a bit and you'll find out it wasn't true (in which case you've got a chance).

- She doesn't like you and wants to get rid of you by inventing a 'boyfriend'.

- She doesn't want people to know she's single

- It's just a 'test' to see how persistent you are

- She could be with a boyfriend but not be satisfied in her relationship, and therefore be receptive to someone better coming along

If a girl tells me 'I've got a boyfriend', I delve a bit deeper and ask her 'What does that mean exactly?', and I tell her that I know girls lie about this stuff and I get her to be honest with me about her situation. I've broken a few girls down this way and got them to admit to me that they haven't really got a boyfriend, or that the guy they're 'seeing' isn't satisfying their needs. It's pretty easy to hook up with them after this.

Now, if I'd believed the line 'I've got a boyfriend', I would've lost out on these girls....but fortunately I'm not naive enough to take that line at face value. Very few women are 'completely single' anyway...there is always SOME kind of guy in their life. So **** whether she says 'I've got a boyfriend'.

So don't come on here calling me a 'fool' for enlightening people about the line 'I've got a boyfriend'. If you are native enough to take this line at face value, then the only fool is YOU, you tool.

Actually the line is probably just them letting you down easy. If you are desperate enough to still push it by all means do that. But a girl I just met in a club means nothing to me and I am not gonna spend another second with her handing out cards or anything of the like. If that's not "wolf pack," "PUA or "alpha" or whatever you litle boys are calling it today, I couldn't care less.

Broken them down? Que?

Broken them down, i.e. instead of just accepting their words at face value I delve a little deeper to get to the REAL TRUTH.

Neil_K is the sort of person girls take restraining orders out against

Not really. It's either true, or it's a lie to make you go away. Not a 'test'.

any guy who just keeps on trying to hit on a girl after she's told him she has a boyfriend, whether she's telling the truth or not, is just an idiot, and he's really not going to get very far.

NOT TRUE. You must not understand the true nature of women if you believe that.

It's not always a 'lie to make you go away'. As I said in my earlier replies in this thread, the line 'I've got a boyfriend' could have at least HALF A DOZEN different meanings. Reread what I wrote, THEN get back to me.



NOT TRUE. I've broken down women who have initially told me 'I've got a boyfriend'. I've gotten phone numbers from girls who 'said they had a boyfriend'. I've been on dates with women who 'said they had a boyfriend'. I've had one night stands with girls who 'said they had a boyfriend'.

They've admitted to me later that either they didn't really have a boyfriend, or that they were 'seeing' a guy but he wasn't fulfilling her needs and therefore were receptive to me pursuing them, or that they were just 'testing' me to see how much of a backbone I had etc.

Now, if I'd walked away as soon as the girl had said 'I've got a boyfriend', because I believed it was true or because I believed she was 'trying to get rid of me', then I'd have lost out on the girl. But because I'm more clued up about dating and women than most men, I was able to delve deeper and find out what they REALLY meant when they said 'I've got a boyfriend'.

I've had women admit to me that they use the line 'I've got a boyfriend' to get rid of spineless, weak guys who approach them. But when you challenge a girl who says she has a boyfriend, you come across as different, you come across as stronger and different than other men, and someone who can't be bull****ted or manipulated, and this will intrigue women who were initially lying about 'having a boyfriend'.

So I stand by what I say 100%. NEVER take the line 'I've got a boyfriend' at face value. It can mean at least HALF A DOZEN different things. Always delve a little deeper and find out the REAL TRUTH before you walk away.

Not really. It's either true, or it's a lie to make you go away. Not a 'test'.

So you wouldn't consider giving a guy a chance if after even you told him you have a bf he tries to be friends? Exactly.

If a girl tells you she has a boyfriend, its probably true, and she's probably happy and not interested in you.

Truth hurts right?

If he wants to be friends, fine. I like having male friends. But if a guy tries to flirt with me when I've told him that, it's just rude and objectifying. The thing is, if you just talk to a girl nicely and be a decent person, she won't have to make up a lie like that. It's the ***** who hit on girls in club and act like they are just sex objects who get that treatment.

Read my earlier replies to this thread where I listed at least HALF A DOZEN things that the line 'I've got a boyfriend' can mean.

Read my replies to 'd123' above about my own experiences with women who have said 'I've got a boyfriend', who I managed to break down.

Once you've read these things THOROUGHLY, then get back to me with specific comments on each one.



Obviously it hurts you to have the truth behind the line 'I've got a boyfriend' revealed by a guy like me, or you wouldn't be getting so theatrical and defensive....

Women don't want men to know that the line 'I've got a boyfriend' isn't always true, and when a guy like me comes along and reveals the TRUTH, they get defensive.