Help - Boyfriend is so selfish!

Sounds like you both need to thrash it out in an argument before he moves his lazy arse.

Seriously though, WoW? Come on, that game is pathetic, and ruins peoples lives. Both of you get off it, if you need more time for University work then stop playing that game.

If your rents too expensive, how about moving out and finding somewhere cheaper to take the burden off? What about both of you actively looking for higher paid jobs?

1. flash boobies in dudes face
2. procede to wind him up
3. say "dishes first"
4. win - win

I play for 30minutes maybe once or twice a fortnight after 8 hours of labs before I start doing my university work - i don't think the extra 30mins a month would help me. He plays ~40hours a week with his friends. Also to others posting I cannot snap the disk or uninstall it - it doesn't need a disk to run and he'd kill me if I uninstalled it...it has crossed my mind.
We have looked for higher paid jobs but I can only work nights and not every night and he loves his job and wont change (partially because he might get to be supervisor within 12months there...sigh). We cannot move out as we are in a 12month contract with the house and glide utilities and would also lose a £600 deposit.

OK. Fair enough. Sounds like you're doing the right things then. He sounds like a loser (no offence) 40 HOURS + A WEEK!? that is nuts. I'd just uninstall it and then say "its me or the game" - there's his ultimatum. Where does he work?

Unfortunately WoW is more important than sex... (thats what he said), and thats quite upsetting, especially I'm not even overweight or unattractive.

He's currently working full time in a restaurant, in the kitchens. He does work ~30hrs a week but he used to ask for extra to get 40-45 hours and now he doesnt care. It's not just WoW, before that he played on the xbox all the time and I said he needed to cut down so he switched to wow.

He's currently working full time in a restaurant, in the kitchens. He does work ~30hrs a week but he used to ask for extra to get 40-45 hours and now he doesnt care. It's not just WoW, before that he played on the xbox all the time and I said he needed to cut down so he switched to wow.

Snap the disk, problem solved.

1. flash boobies in dudes face
2. procede to wind him up
3. say "dishes first"
4. win - win

Does he look like this?

Thats very true, but doesn't help...

I know you don't want to leave him, but shaking him up with the prospect might give him the kick up the backside he needs. You can't stand back and just take it all - it's unfair and will just slowly make you more and more unhappy.

Spell it out to him as clearly as you can. Tell him he is making you miserable, don't tiptoe around it, show him how him being lazy is putting a huge strain on the relationship. If he loves you and respects you (and cares for your wellbeing), he'll listen to you at the very least. Some guys are stubborn, but if you make it crystal clear that you can't put up with it, then hopefully he'll try harder.

If he still doesn't put any effort in, even when he knows your relationship is holding on by a thread, then you should probably leave him, because even if he was lovely at first, he probably won't change.

Sounds like you got married and never realised.