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Boyfriend of 6 months keeps asking if I'll marry him

Basically the title says it all really. We've been going out about 6 months and he's asked me about 5 or 6 times, the first time about 2 weeks after we started going out, if i'll marry him. He's even gone as far as asking if he should get me an engagement ring for my birthday :s-smilie:

Its kind of getting on my nerves, I don't really want to marry him yet, as I tell him every time he asks me! (We're only 18!)

Anyone out there in similar situation?

Its just really annoying, I know he's in love with me and I am with him, but it really is too early to be asking these kind of questions!

Any advice??

Thanks :smile:

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Reply 1

69Crazyfists

And he's definitely not joking?

Reply 2

greeneyedgirl

If you don't want to marry him, then don't marry him.

Have you explained to him WHY you don't want to marry him?

Reply 3

m45

if you've told him firmly and hes not getting the message then try something like 'next time you ask me that i'll dump you' :smile:

Reply 4

rY4uGD1fMzBj4xe2

Just look him straight in the eyes and say "I can't let you do that, Starfox".

He'll know what you're talking about.

Reply 5

username47781

I had this with an ex, just be honest and tell him to stop asking you because the way he is going, he will drive you away.

Reply 6

llys

Have you asked him WHY it's so important to him to get married & why he keeps asking?

Reply 7

jumpingjesusholycow

Tell him if he keeps asking you, you'll never marry him ever.

That'll shut him up about it.

Reply 8

llys

Original post by m45

if you've told him firmly and hes not getting the message then try something like 'next time you ask me that i'll dump you' :smile:

Excellent. This could solve your problem, OP? You might have to go through with it though.

Reply 9

Georgiahoneybee

Have you asked him why he keeps asking you when you've already said no? I mean maybe he's just insecure and needs reassurance. If it carries on though you need to make it clear he has to stop!

Reply 10

xnatalie01x

eek. Next time you're on the subject of marriage, just say something like 'oh 18's too young...' or some other crappy excuse.

That should shut him up! If you don't put him straight, it will drive you mad.

Reply 11

_Mazza_

I've got a good method if you like a gamble.

Tell him you will but only if he will abstain from sex for 12 months to show how serious he is.

Odds are that he won't agree to it. On the off chance that he does, can I come to the wedding? :biggrin:

Reply 12

pinkmonkey3

my boyfriend used to make subtle references to our 'future marriage' and our wedding night. all very casually put into the conversation. and once i was just wearing a ring.. he took it off admiring it.. then slowly put it on to my wedding finger. we had only been going out for about 3 months at the time.... i think he's just a bit of a romantic daydreamer..... i'm 19 (only just) so i kinda know what youre going through. Just let him know, you guys are way too young if you don't like it.

Reply 13

Cicerao

Has he said he'd like to marry you or actually asked, "Will you marry me?" :lolwut:

Reply 14

kacyiscool

Original post by 69Crazyfists

And he's definitely not joking?

no he's not!

Original post by greeneyedgirl

Have you explained to him WHY you don't want to marry him?

yes, i keep saying that i don't want to YET, but i think he thinks that when i say not yet i mean i will in a few months, when its actually more like a few years

Original post by ritchie888

Just look him straight in the eyes and say 'I can't let you do that, Starfox.'

He'll know what you're talking about.

....

ok, i'll try that....

Reply 15

Panda Vinnie

Oh dear

This song was made for girls like you

Reply 16

rY4uGD1fMzBj4xe2

Original post by kacyiscool

....

ok, i'll try that....

BOOM!

Reply 17

greeneyedgirl

Original post by kacyiscool

yes, i keep saying that i don't want to YET, but i think he thinks that when i say not yet i mean i will in a few months, when its actually more like a few years

Don't say "yet"

Say "I don't want to get married until I'm 21" (or something with a definite age)

Reply 18

PlanetEuropa

Dump him.

Anyone who asks someone to marry them after only two weeks of going out is cleaerly emotionally dependent, insecure and unstable.

Reply 19

kacyiscool

Original post by greeneyedgirl

Don't say "yet"

Say "I don't want to get married until I'm 21" (or something with a definite age)

yeh, yeh i'll try that, thankyou :smile:

the thing is, now i've talked about it on here and got loads of good answers and advice to try, i bet he won't ask me again! XD not that that would be a bad thing!!