My guy friend of 5 years has broke my heart & treated me like cr*p.. advice please?

do you know for sure that he's sleeping with her?

It sounds like his confidence has taken a dip as all the times you told him 'no' he took it as a straight rejection? This might be why he has this FwB. He seems to like you and is just insecure of your feelings which you havent really shared with him. Maybe if you open up and talk to him face-to-face?

so are you actually together or are you just friends, i'm really confused

Well my opinion on this stuff is that we're all very young still, and that you'll do well to just leave the situation and move on. I know it sounds very blaze like ooh yeah just move on its THAT easy. It isn't easy but I think you're probably resilient enough to give it a good try.

we're just friends, but when we're out together we totally act like a couple. Like i say we're very affectionate (and alot of it is initiated by him).

Because we're just friends i feel like i shouldn't be upset that he was f**king some other girl while trying to sleep with me at home, but then i think no you shouldn't treat your friends like that.

Thing is its hard as theres a group of 5 of us, and i don't know how to act now as i dont want to be cuddling/ kissing him (which is normal for us when we're out now so if i stopped i reckon he'd realise theres something up) when i know he's f**king this other girl. I don't particularly want to see him either, but i can't avoid him as again he'll realise somethings up.

were i him i would be inclined to do the same, i'd feel that you were seriously blue balling me. You're taking him right up to the edge and then saying no you can't sleep with me, so it's unsurprising he's trying to get his kicks elsewhere.

his actions with you say he either he wants to be more than friends, or he's just being like that to get into your pants, i don't know the guy so

but i think basically he feels you're cock teasing him and it's pissing him off

It sounds like he actually likes you. I don't think he's treating you like crap. You're not telling him how you actually feel. If you like him too stop playing hard to get and agree to be in a relationship with him.

So just to confirm, he wanted to sleep with you and you knocked him back even though you always act like a couple, he told you he loved you and again you knocked him back and then you stopped texting him?

How insensitive of him to be with another girl.

Okay so I've been friend with a guy for 5 years now. We had become very close since last Christmas, to the point where we talked pretty much every day, were very affectionate when out (hand holding, cuddling, kissing necks etc). Over the summer we got even closer, and at the end of the summer he tried to come back to mine (we'd been at the beach all day then gone to a pub.. so it was about 2am) but due to one of our mutual friends being a tool he didn't.

I came back to uni and was very depressed, missing him loads & he said that he was feeling exactly the same (he told me how he was feeling first).

After 5weeks of me being at uni he texted me at 5am, while drunk, saying that he had to ring me as paranoia was kicking in. He'd been looking through my uni photos, and there are alot of pictures of me with guys. Hence my thoughts were that he was getting worried that i was pulling guys at uni or something along those lines?

A week after said text i went home, and we very nearly slept together (i said no). He said that he loves me (i didnt say it back) and that it felt so right, i'm his best friend from home, he misses me so much blah blah blah. He said he doesn't want a LDR though.

Since then i've reduced contact to see if he'd contact me first, but he rarely does. I'd had enough putting the majority of the effort in to talk to him, and this lead to us speaking maybe once a week, instead of daily.

I went home 2 weeks ago, within an hour of meeting up he asked me if i was seeing anyone at uni, and he was his usual very cuddly/kissy self with me, holding my hand while waiting for my dad to pick us up, and then all the way home in the car. He made me get out of the car, hugged me for ages, kissing my cheek at the same time and told me how much he misses me and stuff.

Just the other day he was whinging at me that i don't tell him how i feel.

I found out from one of our other friends that he's in a FwB thing with a girl that he was with last year (they weren't together over summer as he finished it when she was poor at contacting him). He told me the day before i went home the first time that she had told him that she loved him and that it was awkard, which makes me think he doesn't feel that way back. And he has been FwB with her since he went back to uni, before the time he tried to sleep with me.

Am i wrong in being upset that he thought it was perfectly okay to come home and sleep with me, and say all this stuff to me when he's f***ing this other lass at uni? I can't believe he thought i'd sleep with him, and i feel like he purposely hasn't told me that he's f***ing her again. I feel so angry and upset that he could treat me like that.

My first thoughts were that he was showing off to our other guy friends that he could get with me, while having a FwB at uni... but i found out that he hasn't mentioned anything about that night we did stuff to them.

I'm so confused as to what he's playing at. Also I go home for Christmas soon, and i don't know how to act with him.. i don't want him to know that he's upset me like this but i literally don't want him touching me. What do you think he's doing? Does he have feelings for me, or has he just been playing me along?