University/prospective university students-what motivates you?

Neither.


Firstly, **** off with "WHEN you split up." Secondly, he is proud of me.

Lets be honest, you will split up. I know that and I'm pretty sure you know that. Denying that will not change a thing, it will still happen. All good things come to an end. And adolescent relationships, in 99.9% of circumstances will definitely come to an end.

So again, what will you do when you split up? Lose all motivation for life? Commit suicide? Go on the dole? You shouldn't spend your life trying to make others proud. Do what you want to do because you want to do.

And if he is proud of you, then why do you feel the need to make him more proud? He sounds like an arse.

No. Sorry, but you don't know what you're talking about. Plus the fact that 28 is not adolescent.


Well, if my husband dies before me I'll be heartbroken but I'll do my best to be a good person and hopefully we'll meet again.


YOU are the arse. He didn't ASK me to get a degree, I applied before we even met. But yes, he is my motivation in life and he keeps me going when things are hard. If you don't understand that then believe me: it's your loss, not mine.

Oh sorry, my mistake, I should not have assumed that just because you are on a student forum, that you are young. I did not realise that you were an OAP. What are you doing on a student forum anyway? You some sort of paedo?
And, you and your husband will obviously split up. Maybe not now, or ten years, or 15, but at some point you will. Fact.
Also, I am not at a loss. At all...

I must apologise for thinking that what you were saying was coming from an immature child as opposed to someone who has been coerced into denial by what they believe to be love.

I dunno if you're a troll or if you really are that jealous and/or retarded, so I'm not going to bother to reply.

Neither. But I do like the way you avoided my original question. Why do you feel the need to make your boyfriend proud?

I want to make my boyfriend proud of me.

Why on earth would you spend 3 years of your own life doing a degree, just to make your boyfriend PROUD? Maybe that's not your only reason, but surely you have a better prinicipal motivation than that? Won't your boyfriend be proud of you whatever you do (within reason)?

He's already proud of me. No, it's not the only reason.

Why is everyone commenting on this so much? I doubt anyone would even have commented had I said "Make my parents proud," and would just assume I was Asian or something...lol.

Yeah... but the idea of the thread was you post your most significant reason. My surprise is that is your most significant reason.

I haven't encountered anyone give that as their principal reason though, and if they do, it's probably because that's an easy answer to give and/or they don't really know why they made their university choice. Maybe the parents influenced them to choose one subject over another, but then they most likely wouldn't have cared either way tbh. Plus parents are slightly different, they're not "already proud of you" like a close partner/friend would be, because a large fraction of parent's ego is invested in their child.

Oh sorry, my mistake, I should not have assumed that just because you are on a student forum, that you are young. I did not realise that you were an OAP. What are you doing on a student forum anyway? You some sort of paedo?
And, you and your husband will obviously split up. Maybe not now, or ten years, or 15, but at some point you will. Fact.Also, I am not at a loss. At all...

I must apologise for thinking that what you were saying was coming from an immature child as opposed to someone who has been coerced into denial by what they believe to be love.

Is it the career prospects? Passion for your subject? Increased earning potential? Wanting to become more academically intelligent? Enjoy being a student?Something else?

If there's more than 1 reason please state it in order from largest to smallest reason.

Interested in hearing what people say about this.

Thanks.

My parents both worked min wage jobs and hated them, I don't want to do that. So basically I work hard at uni so I don't have to work a ****ty job that I hate and barely get paid for.

In what way is it fact? my parents are still together, my grandparents never split (ok that was a different time), I know plenty that are still together, plenty of people stay together though loads do get divorced but not everyone.

Cicerao - you say boyfriend then mention husband?