Boyfriend has to see ex wife, should I be worried?

his own kids are older than her

no man in his right man does that, it can't be ..

I fink he was married to her for 18 years, n together with her for a bit before that so he prob had his kids wiv her before they were married. I haven't really asked him to go into these details, because its his past n I have to respect that.

I swear men are usually fertile their whole lives?

wow, he really has done a number on you.

tell me, how often do you see him? what do your dates consist of? have you ever been back to his place

now I'm thinking what someone else said - Whats to say he actually is divorced?

Yeh course I've been to his place duh! For dates we go to his place, out for dinner, the usual kind of stuff couples do I guess.

There a proper bunch of knobs on these forums like. The lass asked for opinions on whether she is overreacting, not to be bashed for her boyfriend choices. It's totally up to her who she dates. I mean, who are you to pass judgement exactly? Jeez, some people are so narrowed minded.

I've read a magazine article on a girl who was 17 and her partner was almost 70.

In answer to the OP, I don't think you have much reason to worry tbh, if he's going through a divorce then obviously he needs to meet with his ex wife. Plus he's older, he should be more mature than some lads around the teen years/early 20s who quite often jump into bed the first chance they get (bear in mind I said SOME). Plus, I reckon he must be pretty serious about you if he's told his children.

Oh stop being so judgmental....I'm 17 not 12....we've both thought this through and the gap doesn't matter. I've always liked older men, age 30+, I don't like guys my age at all, n I think most girls are the same in that they prefer older men. So what if he's in his 40s...you can't help who you fall for. And no he didn't 'abuse his position of trust'....it was a mutual attraction and we got to know each other over a period of a few months. So you can just keep your opinions to yourself. Are you saying you've never fallen for an older man? Plus a lot of older men are gonna be divorced/have kids, its the way life goes dear.

He does have kids, he's got a 19 yr old daughter and a son who's a few years older than her....not met them yet but they know about me and my bf says they were shocked at first but are now ok with it so guess I'll meet them in time....scary tho!

At the end of the day, once you're 16 or over you can date who you want and I go for older men.

Well obviously if most of the posters saying something is wrong here, then something is definately wrong here.

He will get bored of your jealousy, tantrums and immaturity within 6 months, I'd put money on it.

I've read a magazine article on a girl who was 17 and her partner was almost 70.

Wow we aren't planning kids anytime soon, let's not get too ahead of ourselves. I DO want kids when I'm older though (hopefully a boy & a girl).

I'm 17, bf is in his 40s. I fink his ex wife is about 39 or something, why?

N I DO trust him, just feels weird that he's gonna be with another woman while I'm not there I guess. Been together about 6 weeks now, but known him for over 6 months as he was/is my driving instructor.