I would never dare try and question anyone's relationship but do you want to be with someone who treats you like that? If there isn't a physical or psychological reason for his behaviour then I would probably be doing some thinking. But equally this may just be the way he's wired, and perhaps now living with you he doesn't feel the need to clean up after himself, stone age thinking I agree but I live with four guys and the popular saying in our house is 'If we don't do it then she will'. I've read about women who don't do anything, literally don't clean a thing until their partners can't stand it and start helping around the house, but I don't think I could cope with a filthy house. Good luck!