Uni - biggest disappointment ever??

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mehhh.....hi.

Well, tbf the people in your year are younger than you, so were ready for fun and drinking when they went, not sitting around having serious conversations. In all honesty, I would hate for uni to turn out how you wanted it to be, I want to have fun.

Forever alone!

Be careful what you wish for. I go to a uni where what you describe is the life I could only dream of. Instead it's all snobby stuck up foreign "intellectuals" who think they are the most intelligent thing on earth, and make you think so, then you see their grades..

Reply 23

donuticus

Original post by HistoryRepeating

tl;dr you are an anti-social misanthrope with a very high opinion of yourself and a low one of other people who, after being anti-social and unpopular at school, rationalised this failure by denigrating the people who shunned you and assuring yourself that your brilliance, intelligence, maturity, with and wisdom would be recongnised once your reached university.

Then you got there and realised people still disliked you for pretty much the same reasons as before - your misanthropy, general condescenscion, arrogance and anti-social personality.

In short, the problem is you, not them or the university experience. Something tells me you are far less intelligent, mature, sophisticated and interesting than you think you are.

I'm thinking this may be quite true although maybe it is worded a little harsh. I fail to see that people can go through 12-13yrs at school and then 3 years at University and leave them all with virtually no friends. I have to agree with the poster I quoted and go out on a limb and say that maybe the other people are not the problem.

Reply 24

patientology

I can really feel what you wrote, OP.
The problem is that university is nowadays a "further school" that helps you to get a better paid mindless career. There are not many left who go to uni because they are eager to learn and who are intelligent, inspired, well-rounded. As a high percentage of sicth-form students are admitted one has to expect, that the maturity level won't rise significantly (maybe even lower, because some expect university to be like in hollywood movies). Maybe it is better at the top unis? But can it be? With such a competition we'll encounter the other extreme...

I has a sad.

Reply 25

apassingfeeling

Well, at least you'll get a degree at the end! It's not been a completely wasted 3 years :wink:

I'm feeling kinda the same and I'm in my first year - I have friends, but I haven't really met anyone i'll be friends with for the rest of my life. But that's ok, because I wasn't expecting to. I'm loving it here and though I've also found that most people I meet are just interested in going out and getting drunk/having sex, etc...I'm doing my own thing and I don't mind. *shrug*! It is what you make it, I suppose.

Reply 26

Jelkin

I found it pretty disappointing too, even though I made plenty of friends and took on a ton of different positions/participated in loads of events. Someone actually said to me that they envied me because I'd clearly made the most of my time at university! But really, I didn't think it was the best time of my life, despite some happy memories. The upside of this is that I feel that the future has a lot in store - the people I know who thought university was utopia are finding it hard to adjust to life beyond.

In case anyone is put off my uni because of what I've said, I'd like to point out that most people there think it's the bees' knees, and it does have a lot to offer.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 27

wallace32

So you weren't liked at School, College or Uni?

Maybe it's a bit your fault

Reply 28

coca

Most people I know at uni aren't like how you described at all. I'm also in my 3rd year and most people I know are interested in doing well and interested in the world around them, not just clubbing and drinking. I've hardly seen any racism and it's not uncommon to see people talking to others outside their own race. There are a few idiots around but they're not difficult to avoid. I think either you're just unlucky or are quite a negative person.

Reply 29

Dizmo

I'll probably never speak to anyone else again after uni, but I'm not particularly bothered. :smile:

I just went for the qualification really.

Reply 30

Retrodiction

Original post by HistoryRepeating

Internet psychoanalysis ftw! :woo:

Reply 31

chrislpp

Someone watches skins too much.

The idea that you go off to uni and everything will be happily ever after....hahaha, seriously, you have a lot to learn about life.

hahahaha

Anyway, on a serious note I will be starting hopefully next year aged 20 and moving away from home to a different city. I will most likely run into the same thing you have run into, in fact, where I am I already kinda get that. People don't want to be all they can be, don't want t progress, just get drunk, be dickheads, get drunk more, be a dickhead. Never want to do anything that will benefit them in years to come, they want things to just happen for them, when you have to make things happen. I am far more intelligent than the average person in my generation and find myself dumbing myself down to penis jokes when the lack of a social life becomes too much to bear, but when I achieve nothing this way, I only have myself to blame and know that the only person to blame is myself, those around me haven't that foresight.

Ambition is a lonely road. I'm 'forever alone' haha but at least I'm carving my way through life the way I want to.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 32

Mr. Orange

Original post by HistoryRepeating

this. you owned that emo

Reply 33

Dude Where's My Username

Original post by HistoryRepeating

You just stank out this thread with irony. Congrats :congrats:

Reply 34

chrislpp

I went to Eton and my chums there have been my friends literally all the way through Oxford. You have to get friends early and keep them the whole way through, they will benefit you in a professional post later in life, people you can call up anytime!

Anyway, I'm Prime Minister now and this week I just gave a big ''**** YOU'' to the student kind that I resented for so many years. They are going to realise soon enough that Higher Education is for those that work hard and deserve it.

Hope this helps laddy!

Reply 35

djm-uk

well, at least I'm not the only one I guess.

as for my being a friendless misanthrope... well, when I said 'no one' that's going too far. I got on with most people at school in the sense I was on cordial terms with them. Partly it was my own fault i had such a crap time because I was quite shy and un-assertive and thus an easy target for bullies. I've got a few good friends in my home town i met at school and hang out with them all the time when back home, so no, I'm not anti-social. When I get a job (hopefully in London) I'm going to join loads of societies, clubs etc. When I'm in good company I love socialising as much as anyone else. And sure, I may not be mr. super-happy but i'm not a miserable bastard either. kabhi khushi kabhi gham
The key thing for me was that I'd been working in an 80-person office for a year+ where I was the youngest there by about 10 years. The work was boring for the most part tbh but I really liked the people, above all because they were mature and actually interesting to talk to and treated me with respect. As far as I'm aware I was well-liked there (and in my others jobs). Going from that to student-ville again was quite a shock to the system.
As I said I like getting drunk now and again - some of the best times at uni have been nights out. Just that's all a lot of people at uni seem to be interested in. Even the charity fund-raising society i joined for a while - a group you'd think would be more level-headed and sensible - was just an excuse to go on pub crawls and play drinking games.
Interestingly i've found this not be the case with many foreign students,
some of whom have been the most interesting people I've met up here. Generally they tend to be a lot more mature than English students (generalising here but its true in my experience). Maybe that's a cultural thing, or just represents the types of people who have the guts to go to uni abroad, more ambitious etc. This is part of the reason why I'm seriously considering emigrating in a few years.

And as for been conceited or whatever - one of the few good things I'll take from uni is that there are plenty of people out there that are a lot cleverer than me. At school I always used to be near the top of the class and, sure, that maybe made me a bit bigheaded at times because compared to my peers, sure I was generally smarter than them. At uni I've met lots of people who are more intelligent than me, which (thankfully) brought me down a peg or two. Its a shame its these people who also tend to be the most obnoxious and opinionated.

anyway, I'm looking forward to moving on to the next stage of my life. At least i'll have a degree so I've got a chance at getting a better job now (i'm hoping to get into the charity sector, life-hating misanthrope that I am). Soon all this will just be a rapidly fading memory. Roll on June 2011!

Reply 36

chrislpp

I can tell you now, time to renovate everything inside your head that you know and start again, it won't be different here, there, anywhere. But there are ***** on every street, labour made it almost a right for them to get into universities. Anyway, that's about to change innit?

Pity it will take some decent people with them.

Reply 37

HistoryRepeating

Original post by Dude Where's My Username

You just stank out this thread with irony. Congrats :congrats:

Difference is, I actually AM better than most people (and well liked!).

By the ultimate measure of e-peen that is +rep. at least :P

Reply 38

Leypath14

Original post by djm-uk

I hear what you're saying mate. I had a pretty similar experience of Uni (2002-2006) .
Like you, I found school and most of my college years to be an utter disappointment, full of chavs and immature pricks. My final college year was pretty good; decent subjects and people I could relate to. Unfortunately I put too much stock in this year, so after two further years of office jobs, I headed for the holy grail that was Uni.
My first Uni - Uni College Worcester as it was then - saw me enrolled on a combined English/Performance studies course. What did a couple of weeks after freshers reveal?; Cliquiness, bitchiness and general immaturity. I hated my first flatmates so much that I moved out within the first month; I hated the Uni so much by the end of the year I transfered to Uni college Winchester!!!
Although I don't agree with what some of the chavs have posted to your thread, I can see the philosophy of looking more at yourself and dealing with your own problems before you can accept other people.
After a better year at Winchester (socially) I took a gap year (this was however due to a painful breakup with a girl). My final year saw me heading back to Worcester to finish what I had begun, and reunite with my best mate who was having similar problems....
I think I finally found what I was looking for in my final uni year, due to good flatmates and having got rid of my childish expectations. The bottom line is hang onto whater positive experience you built for yourself at Uni and don't let that slip away. Chavs and dickheads will always be out there, but It's how we learn to deal with them that matters. After five years, I'm still getting to grips with that, but I'm managing.

Reply 39

lissi08

I can understand this too. University has been the biggest disappointment of my life. I much preferred my sixth form and I miss it like mad!

I never fitted in at secondary school. Even though I was just a normal girl into clothes and boys and makeup, because I got good grades I was bullied and immediately labelled as "weird" or "a nerd" before people got to know me. So irritating but by Year 11 I had totally given up hope and was just looking forward to a fresh start with new people the next year.

My sixth form was brilliant. I met loads of cool people and made a massive group of friends. For the first time in my life I had a proper social life and felt included. Had so much fun and those two years were everything I hoped they would be.

I expected uni to be a step forward from sixth form... amongst people of my intelligence who wanted to go out and have a good time.
How wrong I was...

The problem with University is that I come from a different world. I stupidly chose to go to a rah university. People judge me and prefer to be close to other people because I have a regional accent, drink Carlsberg and value different things in life. I can't relate to them and they can't relate to me.
Cannot wait to get out of there. Worst decision I ever made.