Told girl i like her and got this response...

loser

I think being friends is definitely possible; it just takes an extremely long time to get back to how you were. I know that's not much help, but as long as you are both wanting to be friends, there should be no major problems :-]

"I really like you, but I like you as a friend. You are an awesome guy: incredibly smart and really funny, but for me just a perfect buddy "

Clearly, she does not feel the same way. I'm just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position and any advice. Is being friends possible?

Steve

Cos being mates is poss.

been in that situation before, ie having to tell the guy we're just mates- and well...we are best mates now.
He still feels the same way towards me, but we've established that it'll never happend, hence friends is good.

"I really like you, but I like you as a friend. You are an awesome guy: incredibly smart and really funny, but for me just a perfect buddy "

Clearly, she does not feel the same way. I'm just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position and any advice. Is being friends possible?

Steve

why don't you just put out, your torturing the poor guy surely a cheeky bj wouldnt hurt?!

Errrr....no.

I'm not gonna get physical with someone just because they like me. It's gotta be mutual.

oh chill out doll, its only a willy- you don't like a sausage but you nosh on that!

Get her out of your life. She thinks you are not good enough for her. You don't need people like that, they will lie to your face and tell you what you want to hear but they won't be sincere about it. Find someone who is.

typical girl

That's it! I really couldn't be bothered waiting for you anymore.

Don't bother speaking to me again!

And stop PMing me on Facebook with your problems. I don't care now, and I never actually did care.

What? From what he wrote you cannot possibly come to such a conclusion. She doesn't like him in that way, too bad. At least she was honest and told him instead of leading him on. If they agree to stay friends and he still keeps his hopes up then it's his problem if he can't get over it. If he thinks he's not capable of being just a friends he should just stop hanging out with her. But dissing a girl just because she doesn't like him is utterly immature.

1st lesson, don't tell chicks/guys (if you're gay) (and girls don't tell guys) that you like them. It makes it way too serious early on and puts too much pressure on your friendship/early relationship.



I would be put off too if someone told me that they liked me in that way. Why make it so definite on something that really takes time to judge.

"I really like you, but I like you as a friend. You are an awesome guy: incredibly smart and really funny, but for me just a perfect buddy "

To be honest? If she really said these very words, it sounds like she PRACTISED this reply in the HOPE that she could use it on you.

If so, she is really shallow, immature and into personal drama. Note: she might still be a nice girl and a good friend; nobody is perfect.

But don't run after her.

Errrr....no.

I'm not gonna get physical with someone just because they like me. It's gotta be mutual.

Depends how it was said. Obviously people tell people they like them so that something can begin to develop. However if it was said in a really needy/demanding way= very offputting.

Not at all, people can just flirt and build a relationship easily without ever openly saying that they like them. Actions speak loud than words whilst regaining a sense of unsureness and mystery that is required to keep a relationship going. Otherwise there is no interest, the battle has been decided before it has begun.

Speak volumes with actions, words can often be meaningless or too definite and it is clear that TS is nowhere near a stage where any sort of definition is needed.

Agree entirely. She was very clear and did not lead me at all. I just wish the answer had been different. Time to move on. I have not dissed her, we will remain friends.