Girlfriend changing plans on the day

She wasn't right in doing that... you should let her know you're unhappy with her actions.

She sounds rather immature, fair enough she can go out with friends and have a relationship, but changing plans at the last minute is not nice. I would have a few words and least tell her to make her damn mind up.

This. On the money.

I think it's just immature and I can relate to it.

One of my ex-girlfriends done it to me one day, we agreed to get together on the wedensday to see a film like day or two before, in the morning i texted saying what time the film was at blah blah and see just said she was away out with friends now but will go if she's back later. My re-action wasn't the best as you can imaigne but I've learned from it big time. One of the worst mistakes we can make is to let women force their expectations upon us in this sense. You weren't mad, then she told you that you were mad or told other people you were mad a few times....and now you're mad. Don't fall into this trap. Realize how funny the situation is, its not even an issue.

My girlfriend at the moment is about 5 years older than her, I couldn't even imaigne her doing that to me or anyone else in that matter.

This issue which has escalated from nothing into a big deal in my eyes at the time.
But now It's only a big deal because you're making it one. Confronting women is almost always a bad idea. People who command respect don't complain about it. At the end of the day. She is a woman. You are supposed to be a man. But from expereince try not to be as needy. Simply just Back off and Don't contact her with plans until she shapes up.

This. I understand this. The problem is i got very VERY annoyed with her about it, so yes i voiced my anger at her otherwise she will think its fine to keep doing that. When i think about the big picture, yes it isnt a massive deal, but im still very annoyed by it.

I agree, it's not very fair to change things right at the last minute. Annoys people right down there. You're quite right to feel that way and after some time I hope she would understand.

I used to have a friend who would change plans maybe an hour before we meet, which sometimes would be after I got on the train to meet up. Sometimes it would be perfectly legitimate like going with someone to hospital, but other times..."It's raining today so not a good time to meet." "Someone really wants to see me, sorry, next time please..." "Sorry you were waiting here for an hour, I got on a late bus and got stuck in traffic. Anyway, I thought you would have given up so I'm already going someplace else, sorry..."

Put up with it because she was such a great friend when we did manage to meet.

Do you think the plans were concrete? do you think she thought they were? - Why didn't you set a time and somthing to do (suggestion at least).

Exactly what behavior do you have a problem with? Her behavior up until the time you started acting all butt-hurt was standard flaky behavior that you exacerbated by making ambiguous plans with her.

You havn't done yourself any favors with your voiced anger reaction to the situation, infact you have probarly made things worse for yourself and gave her a valid reason to be mad at you aswell. Unless you made major plans and spent money you can't get a refund on then you have lost nothing. It wasn't a massive big deal untill you made it one. You could have said. "If it's not too late swing by later, if not, see each other over the weekend' - Either she does or doesn't. You can tell her off another time that you don't respect or like that but you don't need to be angry about it all. People who unemotionally make other plans because the other person seems flaky don't feel the need to announce they "ain't hanging around." The just make other plans.

You have your own life. Your life doesn't revole around her and realise that. You might not already have made plans but I'm sure your still able to. Sitting on an Internet forum crying and moaning over your annoyed because of what she done to you and because your not with her today / tonight. Nobody should affect your mood, yes be annoyed but you didn't need to show it. I'm on your side dude but there is honestly no point in analysing it to death, go out tonight and flipping enjoy yourself. As said don't contact her with plans untill she does, if you really want to you can make plans with your friends or doing somthing yourself and INVITE her along - Even if she doesn't come your doing it anything - Again it's your life.

I'd advise you to ignore it IF this is the first time, I mean c'mon, give her a chance.
If she does it repeatedly just bring it up with her that you don't like sudden changes of plans.

If i was you, i wouldn't give her the penis pounding for a good 2 weeks, that should teach her to change plans like that.

I'm being half serious, this would majorly piss me off and my forms of revenge on people usually include calling them bastards of f heads, but i wouldn't do that to a gf if i had one. So i'd be forced to be inventive with it and that's all i can think of at this moment, seeing as how i'm really tired for some reason.

best post in this thread tbh.
I agree with you totally. Ive just been on the phone to her for about an hour discussing it. The problem with me is i discuss problems via text, so she texts back, but i should really call her instead so i understand more.
Basically we only roughly arranged to meet up tonight, not go out for a meal or anything just stay in and watch a film. She doesnt see her friend very often, so she wanted to see her tonight, and see me Sunday.
Fair enough i guess, i just felt a bit kicked aside sort of thing. But i did go very ott and apologised when i understood her point. The problem with me is i think im right, and i dont consider other peoples opinions. Arrogant/ignorant tbh, not done myself any favours but i guess its not like ibooked a hotel and shes bailed...