to all the muslims

it was in response to her post 'please develop on why i should...', in retrospect i shudn't have repeated her choice of word 'develop' in my response i can see what u mean now. lol. ps this is typical - the guy is the perv where the girl is innocent just typical

i really want to bt its nt easy.i dnt want to marry anyone and prior go getting engaged, i will have to get to know the guy, right? Bt then during this period of getting to know each other,i will be committing a sin, no? Im just sooo confused. What if i believe a guy when he says he wants to marry me, bt then it turns out tht he was nt being honest? I dnt want to make a fool of myself

hey there, I know exactly how you feel, before I found my love, I had never had a bf, i thought theres soo many pricks out there how do i KNOW for sure if the guy who i go out with wont cheat on me, lie, be unfaighful, or is just using me for sex so i said to myself I iwll wait till i find the one guy who i KNOW will want to marry me in the long un, and all the guys that had liked me were pricks, they didnt want a serious relationship, until I found my soulmate, we were friends first, we used to talk for hours on end nearly every day and i really liked him and knew he liked me too but we never told each other, one day we thought we would meet up (hes a very close family friend of my aunites so we've seen each other round parties n stuff since we were little, hes 22 and im 18 but we never actually spoke to each other after not seeing each oher for 4 years when we saw each other at a wedding and he didnt recognise me lol!) so when we met up, we were talkin n hugging then suddenly we kissed, it wasnt even planned, so since then, we knew that we wanted to marry each other, he had never had a gf before yet alone KISSED another girl the way i had never had a bf or even kissed a guy, he told me how he always wnated to be with someone who was not a gf, but so much more than just that, someone he knew he would marry n when he found me he realised it was me and thats exactly how i felt about him.
He is a very religious guy, prays 5 times a day, doesnt smoke drink alcohol go clubbing nothing haram and when we got together he made me into a beter muslim and now i pray 5 times a day too thanks to him, although he never forced me to i asked him to teach me. even though we are both religious now, people may think we're haram coz we have each other but if you really want to be loved like I did, then do what I did, dont just go out with any old guy, find a guy who wants to BE with you, someone who doesnt just want a gf but someone who will want to marry you, and if hes a decent genuine guy who says he will then go for it, not someone who says "oh u wanna go out with me", just make sure the go you give your heart to is a guy who you know will want to marry you, that way i wouldnt say its haram, because your with someone who you know will marry you, thats my all my religious hijabi girls dont have an issue with me and my soulmate because they know we will get marrried. I DONT ever use any online sites! it says int he quran even before we are born allah knows who we will marry, and u should never go looking for love, let love come toyou, if you go looking for it you will never find true love, be patient, i waited 16 years until I found him, that was 2 years ago and he waited 20 years, its different for eveyone, and you never know, your soulmate could be right under your nose! it could be someone you NEVER would have thought you would fall in love me, like me! i never thought in a million years i would end up loving him but I did, so it could be anyone!
if you wanna ask me anything feel free to message me im here to help! xxxx

you're being a bit hypocritical with that last sentence you just said.

It is permissible for you to talk and get to know someone in the presence of your wali (father/guardian/brother). You can also ask your brother, father or any male mahrem (close male relative) to talk to the guy and find out what he's like. Tell your family you want to get married and inshallah they should help find a potential husband for you and invite him round for you to get to know him.

Otherwise, be patient. We have plans but Allah (Swt) has plans better.

Mashallah keep your modesty girl! You have my respect. Salaams.

I know two hijabi girls that say they will have sex with their partner before marriage

Many girls wearing hijabs nowadays are worse than girls not wearing hijabs. it's really shameful, i mean if you're like that then what's the point in the hijab? social statement? i mean i'm a guy and i wouldn't do it before marriage! it's just so silly.

awwwww thats soooooooo cute xx

I take a modern stance on Islam - growing up, especially in the West - it's not viable not to "date"...But I guess I just go on what my parents have taught me and they're quite liberal.

i disagree my friend. you can just speak to people casually to get to know them. i think going on a date is a bit too far personally.

"Date" is just a word. It's important to properly get to know somebody - their likes, dislikes, good/bad habits rather than marrying them after a few casual conversations and having a miserable marriage. If this is solved by going out (just like going out with a male friend) and getting to know them better then so be it.

Marriage comes first. Love comes after lol

just don't be religious anymore

if your religion requires you make such sacrifices and you choose to follow it, then surely that's it? you just have to sacrifice?

Many girls wearing hijabs nowadays are worse than girls not wearing hijabs. it's really shameful, i mean if you're like that then what's the point in the hijab? social statement? i mean i'm a guy and i wouldn't do it before marriage! it's just so silly.

im 21, never had a bf bc its haram but i am fed up of being single. What can i do?
Plz cnt advise me to disregard or quit my religion. Also, i would never use a website for single muslims. I prefer a traditionsl approach. My big problem is tht it is difficult to approach me as i am scared of committing a sin. I dnt want to disrespect my religio but i really want to love and be loved.