Uncomfortable around someone at work

Don't feel pressured into just accepting being sexually harrassed. Snitch.

Don't feel pressured into just accepting being sexually harrassed. Snitch.

Listen to the man! If you feel uncomfortable with them, tell them to stop. If they don't then GIVE...THEM...HELL!!!!

If i told someone would it be completely confidential? He seems to do it when other people aren't around, or when they're working on something so they don't notice. It be just my word against his, what if they believe him?

I've not told them to stop (im not very assertive, and to be honest the times he's done it have caught me off guard and i didn't know what to say). It's really clear that i don't appreciate it though, i usually tense up and move away.

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Someone i'm working with makes me feel terribly uncomfortable, to the point that i dread going in if they're going to be there. They aren't mean or anything, quite the opposite. They're quite complimentary towards me. What makes me feel uncomfortable is the compliments they give me, and that they try to touch/get close to me. I'd be working on something and they'd come up behind me really close, and grab my hand or stroke my arm, and say 'i just wanted to touch your hand/be close to you'. I know that they do it to a few other girls who work there too, and it makes them feel uncomfortable. Is it unreasonable of me to feel uncomfortable, they're quite a bit older than me and it comes off as creepy.

Should i tell a manager about how it's making me feel? On friday they came up behind me and started stroking my back, it's incredibly offputting. Thing is, recently someone else was fired because apparently they were making girls feel uncomfortable (although i had no problem with them), and im worried that if i tell someone people would just think i'm grassing up a decent person. I do know though that they make other women feel uneasy in their presence, and often when they're in the staff room with him, they'd leave if it meant being alone with him.

Am i overreacting? I've never been in this situation before, but surely caressing someone's hand/back at work is innappropriate? Im worried that if i tell someone and nothing is done he'll know it was me who told others too.

What do i do?

Than give them hell!!! Go to your boss, the POLICE if you feel strongly, and utterly obliterate them! It could well be sexual harassment and that is a MINOR CRIME. You can't let them get away with it.

Have you told him how uncomfortable he makes you feel? Stand up for yourself and tell him to keep his hands off you.

If he continues after you've warned him, then tell someone higher up that you feel uncomfortable. Maybe he doesn't realise how creepy he's coming across, or maybe he's just a touchy-feely person and if he knew how he'd upset you then he'd stop?

EDIT: Oops, just read your post above. You really need to tell him to back off before you complain about him, imo.

She can't go to the police because he touched her back

At the end of the day, if you don't tell him to stop, he'll probably think he hasn't been doing anything wrong. Yeah, it's an invasion of personal space but unless he's touching you in really inappropriately, e.g. breasts, bum, between your legs, then you need to speak to him first.

Thank you. Next time he touches me i'll tell him to back off. To be honest the reason why i haven't before is because it usually takes me by surprise. I will next time though. You're right about telling him to leave off before complaining though, otherwise he might get in trouble for what he thinks is perfectly innocent.

I know what you mean Is there any way you could talk to him, before he has chance to do it again? Like next time you're at work, can you just have a quiet word, and say you'd really appreciate it if he didn't keep being so touchy feely because it makes you uncomfortable? If he means no harm by it then he'll stop straight away.

Just tell them to stop as you don't feel comfortable with it?

Whats he gonna do? Rape you there and then?