The Ugly Friend

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I don't label other people as the ugly friend, I don't judge people that way.
I do label myself as the ugly friend, however.

Reply 61

Le Masquerador.

Original post by PortiaLovesMcqueen

Yes. It's lovely actually :smile:

hence why I get a little shocked when I hear people like my flat mate. I have done volunteering with people with burn scars some were disfigured in the face and I remember how much it warmed my heart at how amazing some of them were :'(

When you look at them they had disfigured features but they were such amazingly beautiful people deep down. :smile:

That's so sweet :smile:

I honestly don't think your flatmate is really a 'friend' to the other girl, no-one would say anything like that about a friend if they truly cared for them and the way they're behaving is just quite mean :s-smilie:

Grrr, I hate girls like that :mad:

Reply 62

PortiaLovesMcqueen

Original post by laurie:)

its true though, just because someone's ugly doesn't mean you can't have a fun time and just generally relax and be yourself with the people you genuinely care about!

I doubt you are 'ugly' anyway. Maybe you have friends more attractive than you but maybe on an average scale you're not that bad!

Reply 63

Drumzilla

Original post by PortiaLovesMcqueen

HA.

My boyfriend has spoken about this.
When men say 'taking one for the team'. :biggrin:

we've lost so many good men :cry:

Reply 64

xoxAngel_Kxox

I was always the ugly friend in my group at high school :frown:

Actually I think I still am at uni :frown:

But I'm also the only one in a solid LTR so it's all good.

Reply 65

Climbontoyourseahorse

It sounds to me like your flatmate has insecurities about her appearance and this is how she deals with it - seeking out people who are 'less' attractive than her. Who's to judge anyway? And just because someone might be perceived to be the least attractive member of a group, they could still be really attractive.
I think it's shocking that people will call others ugly, as we have all felt ugly at some point, or at least in relation to others. How would your flatmate feel if Angelina Jolie called her ugly, or something?

Reply 66

Converse

Original post by PortiaLovesMcqueen

Surely Mary when you genuinely become friends with someone it should be impossible to perceive them as 'ugly'.

That's called being in denial.

Reply 67

Anonymous #2

Original post by Bubbles0ox

my friends are all really pretty
I think most girls would agree that most of their close friends are at least a bit pretty
idk

why would they think all their friends are pretty? I don't become friends with someone because they're pretty, I become friends with them because I get on well with them. And when I become friends with them, I don't automatically start thinking they're good looking if they're not.

Reply 68

qasman

Her and her friends are monumental bitches for saying stuff like that behind her back.

Reply 69

ilovepolska

if you don't have an ugly friend, then you're the ugly friend. simples.

Reply 70

rogreg8

jersey shore - making the world a grenade free zone.

Reply 71

lorry:)

Original post by PortiaLovesMcqueen

I doubt you are 'ugly' anyway. Maybe you have friends more attractive than you but maybe on an average scale you're not that bad!

i am ugly.

i'm the one guys either make fun of and send pretend notes that are either annoying or hateful - you know the ones that say 'i really like you, meet me outside in 10 mins', or the one guys become 'good friends' with, i'm the one they talk to when they have problems with their girlfriends or families but never the one they go out with.

and yeah, sometimes it does make me upset, but most of the time i don't care because its not one of my aims in life, i'm happy to just go pottering about my business, get decent grades and have good friends :smile:

Reply 72

Shippy

I'm the ugly friend. HA.

Reply 73

PortiaLovesMcqueen

Original post by laurie:)

Darling, I think you could say you were not in society's view of what is most attractive however the fact that your so sweet and have such a positive attitude towards yourself and other's means you will never be 'ugly' and there will be that one guy you meet who will find you very beautiful.

:smile:

xoxo

Reply 74

stac4321

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder :smile:

Reply 75

PortiaLovesMcqueen

Original post by Converse

That's called being in denial.

Nope. It's psychological. The same way you couldn't find your mother ugly. :smile:

Reply 76

username549578

I find having an ugly friend is counter-productive, the girls see them, and go in the opposite direction.
It works better if you carry a puppy or if you can find a baby from somewhere, that gets people interested :biggrin:

Reply 77

coca

I've found that a person's personality affects how I see them physically. When I think about the least attractive people I know, they tend to be people I dislike anyway.