People who have never had any attentation at all. How do you cope?

I never got any attention while i was at school. I was this fat unattractive girl. I started getting attention and dating at uni.

I personally don't like attention, the less the better. I do like it when I fancy the person though. I haven't fancied anyone in ages though .

Yes even at 15 you were worries that only what 2-3 after you avarage teenage starts to date, I'm talking about people who are 17-18 + and have never had any one display any intest in them, by that age most people you know will have had some attention and I'm just wondering what does that feel like esspecially when were constanly told "love" (what ever that is) can only be found with a paticular person and yet their are people who will possiblly never have a relationship.

It makes you feel worthless, and then pathetic for thinking that you're worthless because no guy has never said anything nice to say to you. I thought this was the phase 12 year old girls went through, and at the time I thought I was pretty smart being above all of it. Kind of sucks when you have no male role models too. Always, the idea that if you're a girl then this is impossible and you must be physically ugly by definition of the high standards of teenage guys is another smack in the face.

It's not as if people care about what you've been through to make you a 'nice' person. I guess in my life I'm still stuck in a pit of mental trauma, but guys and other teenagers as a whole are more than happy to make sure you stay down there. Who gives a stuff about nice when you have fit tits and arse anyway

I can empathises with what your saying but why do you fell that being "nice" entitles you to a guy, good enough looks entitle you to a partner (nearly ever one reaches this level of attrativeness). Good looks are such aan adavange as they help you find the best partner, just as another person could arguer intelligence buys a person wealth. Its all a game of inhernt adtvange, you probsbly goyt yours somewhere just not in the romantic arena. It puzzells me as to why you have this sence of entitlment that means being "nice" should get you a partner.

Yes even at 15 you were worries that only what 2-3 after you avarage teenage starts to date, I'm talking about people who are 17-18 + and have never had any one display any intest in them, by that age most people you know will have had some attention and I'm just wondering what does that feel like esspecially when were constanly told "love" (what ever that is) can only be found with a paticular person and yet their are people who will possiblly never have a relationship.

This gives hope to me.

Sadly looks can really change the way most guys respond and give attention to girls.

When I was at school I wore no make-up at all and was size 14/16 (11st). To make matters worse, I was short and I also had a poor dress sense.

When I got to uni I started wearing make-up and also shed the weight to 8st (size 10). I still have a poor dress sense but I just keep it plain and elegant e.g. pinafore and warp dresses because I can't go wrong with such.

Anyway to cut a long story short, guys started giving me loads of attention when I shed the weight. I think it's also because before my face was chubby and plump but then when the pounds fell off, it became more defined.

I'm size 8 (albeit 4'11). Is that OK?

I'm size 8 (albeit 4'11). Is that OK?

Aww, you're tiny. Have you hit puberty yet?

I think size 8 is really great for that height. I guess the point I was trying to make is that the reason I never got any attention is because I was chubby and so unattractive.