I'm sick being treated like a piece of meat at clubs. . .

Okay this what happened with my drink getting spiked.

It happened at a house party (not even a club) I had just popped around to say hi and to have a drink with them before they went to the club. I wasn't going along so was dressed in baggy jeans, baggy jumper, no make up and big boots. I had two drinks and began to feel really, really drunk, hazy and couldn't control myself. No one could understand why. I had come with a friend and her friend who was visiting, but was getting a coach home that night. My friend seeing that I was looking really bad called me a taxi to take me up the road home as she had to get her friend home.

My friend had to go but since my taxi was going to turn up in a moment or two, she left telling a few of my "so-called" friends to just look after and make sure I get in my taxi. Instead, they were getting in another taxi to the club and one of the girls (I find out later this is how it happened) thought it would be fun to bring me along too. She later protested that she "didn't want me to miss out", even though the original friend wanted her to make sure I got in my own taxi home.

There was this strange guy in the taxi who had been at the party and I didn't know him at all. I remember very little. I remember him cuddling me in the taxi and then stopping the taxi half way to the club and dragging me by the arm. We ended up at his house and where I remember bits and pieces like how I threw up in his bathroom, how I was screaming and crying, how I begged for him to "let me go" and "I want to go home", how he dragged me to his bed, took my phone off me, felt me up and wouldn't let me leave.

He must have eventually let me go and get a taxi home, I don't properly know. I assume I must have been crying so much as I got home and my housemates saw that my eyes were bright red and my cheeks were wet. I also had bright red marks all over my breasts. The friend who sent me in the taxi originally came running to my house shortly after I was home and told me I had sent loads of text messages like "HELP ME", "In a guys house, won't let me go, HELP", etc and a million missed calls.

The worst thing about it was that the girl who pulled me into the taxi, who I do understand wasn't entirely to blame, told me later that she saw him dragging me off and didn't stop it because "we seemed quite tight in the taxi" and that "she didn't want to spoil my night", even though she also said I looked like I was going to pass out and was falling over a lot. She also denied that he spiked my drink even though it must have been him (or some other psycho guy?) as I had been tripping and feeling seriously drowsy the whole night. I don't speak to her or her friends anymore.

I also found out that guy was BANNED from the nightclub we were going to, I don't know what for, but why was he in a taxi to go there in the first place?

Now I don't trust men anymore. I went home to my mum for the weekend because I just felt so traumatised being at uni and it f***ed up many weeks of study for me. It happened a month ago and I'm still pretty traumatised. My mum told me that I shouldn't let this stop me going out, I have to be strong, she knows I'm sensible and safe.

If you stop going out then they've won, right?

Anon as I know people on here.

I'm getting really sick of being treated like a piece of meat at clubs. Really sick of it. When I go to a club I don't go to pull, I go there to just chill out with my friends and dance a bit. I really love clubbing for that reason and don't want to stop going. But it seems that everytime I go out at the moment it turns into an unpleasant experience as I end up with loads of creeps following me, touching me, one guy even shoved his tongue down my throat without warning the other night. . . I always say "no" or "f*** off" or "I'm not interested" but still they pursue me, try to grind with me or something else.

Guys just don't take "No" for an answer, even if you say it repeatedly. Hell I even had to slap a guy recently and scream, "GET OFF ME!" and he still pursued me. What can I do?

Now don't get me wrong, if people want to pull at clubs that's fine, that's there call but I never ask for that kind of attention, i.e. I don't wear particularly tight or revealing clothing when I go out to get attention. I also don't drink, or drink that much, mostly because I had a horrible experience recently where my drink got spiked and I was dragged off to some guy's house.

I always thought pulling or meeting someone should be a sub aim of the evening, not the focus to find anything that moves to f***. All I want is to be left alone. And if someone wants to ask me out or hell, even pull me, they can treat me in a respectable manner and not try and pull my skirt up in a club or touch me.

Sorry about the rant. Anyone agree with me? Hell any advice? I really don't want to stop clubbing as I love it.

Thank you so much! Unlike some of these other idiots you actally seem to get it!

I think people should be able to go out in whatever they want and not be disrespected, also anyone who has actually read my original post would see that I don't actually wear slutty clothes, but still I should be able to wear what I want not have to think as to attract the wrong kind of attention.

That's complete bull****, and to be honest, implies that you are a jealous, unattractive and bitter hater of your own sex who never gets any attention.

I wore a headscarf for four years and I still had guys stalking me and pinching my ass. I don't dress or act in a slutty way and never have. A lot of men just choose to treat women with zero respect, regardless of their behaviour and or choice of clothing and as a woman yourself, you should blame the men for their choices, not women for the fact that some of us are actually attractive. Get over your own selfish bitterness. Women like you make me sick.

Well done on being another person who failed to read my post properly.

You forgot to post anonymously, Blueflare.

Um, don't act like you're above everyone else posting in this thread.

I'm sure everyone understands what it is you were saying, and that everyone "gets" it - just because they offer up different opinions / solutions that doesn't mean they are idiots.

People go to night clubs for different reasons; to dance, to hang out with friends, to go on the pull, to get drunk, to date rape - whatever! Not everyone is going to have the same intentions as you - so you're just going to have to accept this.

Now, before you get on your high horse, I am not condoning the inappropriate actions of individuals, I am merely saying people go out expecting different things and will therefore act accordingly.

Why would I be posting anonymously?

I thought you were the OP based on when you said "Well done on being another person who failed to read my post properly."

The OP *Anonymous* has said that a few times...

Still wondering why this isn't a problem for all OP's friends that she goes clubbing with

believe me women will not go to such clubs. I've got enough neg rep from this thread I don't care any more, but the truth of the situation is no matter what she says she dresses a certain way to GAIN attention. but when it doesn't come from a nice looking guy she has a problem with it. in all my years of clubbing I have never received unwanted attention, ever, and yet I managed to have a good time with my friends.

I am sick to death hearing about this "I'm sick being treated like a piece of meat at clubs" ****. PLEASE tell me why would ANY woman with self respect dress in such a way that she will end up being treated like a piece of meant. furthermore why would she go back clubbing where she will be treated like that over and over again. would this kind of treatment not put her off clubbing?? Yes people should wear what they want but you must also bare in mind that your appearance gives the first impression.

I only clicked on this thread because I thought for once it was written by a guy but after I read it it seriously pissed me off. I have no sympathy for her what so ever. like I have said to others I stand by what I said - if you dress like a slut be prepared to be treated like one. and doesn't matter if they say they don't dress like sluts - if they get this kind of attention then they are clearly doing something wrong.

Yet again, someone who hasn't read my original post, or in fact, ANY of my posts.

I don't go out dressed as a slag. I often go out in jeans, NEVER reveal my cleavage and wear flats (mostly because I'm so tall).

I even got my drink spiked wearing jeans, a baggy thick knit jumper and big boots.

Also, you and many others say you "have no sympathy for me", when you don't have a clue about what's happened to me and what happens to some girls. You must think I'm some duckfaced slag with a face full of makeup who encourages men on the dancefloor when I don't. I hardly drink and never make eye contact or go to a club to pull.

Don't make such rash judgements on people unless you know the situation, or hell even READ my posts beforehand as you will actually understand the situation.

I dunno, you're being pretty judgmental yourself by saying you didn't deserve to be treated badly because you were wearing jeans and flats, which implies girls who dress up do deserve to be treated badly. This isn't a personal attack on you as a lot of other people in this thread have said similar things. Dressing in a certain way doesn't entitle people to treat you like a piece of meat and I can't stand that so many people seem think that it does. No one deserves to be treated like that, no means no, no matter what someone is wearing.

don't dress like a slut. if you are there to have a good time with your friends wear no make up, jeans and a baggy t-shirt. otherwise don't complain. if you dress provocatively then you deserve what comes your way. it's as simple as that.

It is. They get quite sick of it too. I didn't say it was just me, it's just my experiences. But I guess I've been the most unfortunate in my experiences

You can't have a club without guys looking to pull, it doesn't exist. You either stop going or learn to deal with it.

Yet again, someone who hasn't read my original post, or in fact, ANY of my posts.

I don't go out dressed as a slag. I often go out in jeans, NEVER reveal my cleavage and wear flats (mostly because I'm so tall).

I even got my drink spiked wearing jeans, a baggy thick knit jumper and big boots.

Also, you and many others say you "have no sympathy for me", when you don't have a clue about what's happened to me and what happens to some girls. You must think I'm some duckfaced slag with a face full of makeup who encourages men on the dancefloor when I don't. I hardly drink and never make eye contact or go to a club to pull.

Don't make such rash judgements on people unless you know the situation, or hell even READ my posts beforehand as you will actually understand the situation.