Asians, are you allowed to marry a girl/guy of your choice?

Question open to all, but mainly targeted at South-Asians. Are you allowed to marry a person of your choice, even if he/she doesn't originate from the same country as you?

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Yeah.

I hope they are. But im guessing it depends on the family right?

Quite simply, no.

sorry about adding a question to your thread OP but....

For those who say no can you say why it is? I assume for the large majority it's their families view not their own. Is it because of some sort of ethnic superiority complex? As in a non-South Asian partner wouldn't be as...good, for some reason? Purity of blood lines and racial mixing not approved of?

Reply 5

effofex

Original post by qwerty_mad

Question open to all, but mainly targeted at South-Asians. Are you allowed to marry a person of your choice, even if he/she doesn't originate from the same country as you?

Lol of course! Most South Asian countries are multiethnic anyway, right?

Why would it matter specifically whether or not they originated in the same nation? (especially if the said South Asian person is living outside South Asia)

Reply 6

BlueGenes

Is this somewhat of a family policy?

Reply 7

effofex

Original post by joey11223

Actually, if a South Asian person reproduced with a non-South Asian person surely there would be a statistically lower probability of genetic diseases caused by double recessivity being expressed?

Reply 8

ManAbout

Yes, I can.

But, it depends on the other person as well. I was really keen on this beautiful Afghan girl, but eventually we ended it because her parents want her to marry a Muslim, and not only a Muslim, but he also had to be Afghan. Both. I am neither, so that was the end of that.

Reply 9

ilyking

Original post by qwerty_mad

Question open to all, but mainly targeted at South-Asians. Are you allowed to marry a person of your choice, even if he/she doesn't originate from the same country as you?

yes, as long as my parents choose a couple of appropriate people then I'm allowed to choose out of that selection.

Does that count?

Reply 10

AP1989

Original post by joey11223

Culture and religion.

Reply 11

catty khan

Original post by ManAbout

ooooo yep im sort of afghan, well speak thier language anyway and thats how it roles with us, has to be totally the same afghan not even a different cast :O x

Reply 12

lollmuslim

No. I get asked out a lot, but say no, because I just don't think it would be fair :frown:

Silly parents.

Reply 13

Casshern1456

I'm Oriental Chinese and I can, whichever race..guy or girl(I'm straight) my family have no saying in my business and they cannot tell me what I want.

Reply 14

qwerty_mad

Original post by RoshniDiya

Quite simply, no.

Why are you not allowed? Say he was of the same religion, if you follow any.

Reply 15

AP1989

Original post by catty khan

ooooo yep im sort of afghan, well speak thier language anyway and thats how it roles with us, has to be totally the same afghan not even a different cast :O x

But how can you marry an Afghan who is 'totally the same' if you're only 'sort of afghan'?

Reply 16

ManAbout

Original post by catty khan

ooooo yep im sort of afghan, well speak thier language anyway and thats how it roles with us, has to be totally the same afghan not even a different cast :O x

Yeah, it's such a shame, cos Afghan and Persian girls are sooooo gorgeous. I think I just gotta find one who is willing to rebel against her family and run away with me.

Reply 17

RoshniDiya

Original post by qwerty_mad

Why are you not allowed? Say he was of the same religion, if you follow any.

Oh, i would be able to if he was of the same religion. As in born into the religion, it wouldn't even matter if he was an atheist. Would have to be of the same caste too. Then other factors come in such as his family status, background, family reputation.

My family wouldn't allow it. It's complete bull****, but you learn to live with the stupid sexist mother****in culture. :rolleyes:

Reply 18

Deadly Lightshade

Yes.

My parents are quite reasonable.

I offered my mother a well-considered feminist critique of her dislike of premarital sex, and now she's not so awkward about me sleeping with my boyfriend anymore.

Through mature debate comes truth.

Reply 19

Billa Bong

well for pakistanis it's mostly arranged marriage so the parents choose the guy/girl but the western culture seems to be slowly getting there as well and i am hearing more and more people are turning to love marriages...for me (being pakistani) if i find love before 30 that i can honestly say i can spend my life with then i'll let my parents know and hopefully they'll accept my decision...but if not then i'll go with what they say