What I listen to is mainly DSBM (Depressive Suicidal Black Metal) as opposed to traditional black metal. So bands like:
Sterbend
Nyktalgia
Nocturnal Depression
Make A Change... Kill Yourself
...
Lamentations Of The Ashen
Abyssic Hate
Trist
Hypothermia
Life Is Pain
Life Neglected
Kyla
Canis Dirus (which are DSBM to an extent)
ColdWorld
Exitus Letalis
Forgotten Tomb
Any of Morbid's bands (not the Morbid from Forgotten Tomb, but the one from Happy Days, Hanging Garden, etc. Can find more bands of his by typing Happy Days into the Metal Archives and looking at what other bands he's been in. Most of those are quite heavily slated for being "nothing new" in the DSBM genre, but I don't really give a toss what other people think)
Exiled From Light
Winds Of Sorrow
When Mine Eyes Blacken
Gris
Miserere Luminis
Monarque
Dead And Forgotten
Shining (the Swedish Shining, not the Norwegian one)
Sombres Forêts
Silencer
Thy Light
Todeskult
Svedhous
Wigrid
Wehmut
Würm
Then there's the "not so DSBM bands" like:
Alcest
Amesoeurs
Mortifera
Peste Noire
Darkestrah
Drudkh
An Autumn For Crippled Children
I Shalt Become
Lantlôs
Nachtmystium
Sacrificia Mortuorum (I went through a phase where I listened to their "Maturum Est" album pretty much non-stop for ages)
Sólstafir
Velvet Cacoon (mostly Ambient/Dark Ambient material, but good BM nonetheless)
Wolves In The Throne Room
Pensées Nocturnes (it's both depressive and not, I'll let you be the judge of it)
Fen
Winterfylleth
Altar Of Plagues
Funeral Doom:
Elysian Blaze
Esoteric
Senthil
Bosque
Nortt
Wormphlegm
(Top two are heavily recommended, especially Elysian Blaze for the depressive side of them. Esoteric for the more typical Funeral Doom-y aspects).
Should be enough to get you started
Edit: All those bands with full discographies can be found on the Metal-Archives site. Worth checking through any members old bands/other projects too for any other gems you happen across.