Boyfriend going clubbing tomorrow night

By the sounds of it, you two have trust and insecurity issues. Best thing to do is just casually ask him how Boxing Day went and see if he's hiding anything.

He wants to listen to some music up loud, have a few drinks and get down with his bad self. Chill.

This. Then he will last longer for the girl he takes home.

Some people really shouldn't be in relationships.

That might legitimately be what his purpose is before he goes out, but when he's in the club and the 'girls from work' are letting their hair down and there are a load of other girls up for it... one thing leads to another pretty damn easily.

My recent-ex has gone clubbing today so I'd appreciate it if we all stuck to the 'people never do anything remotely sexual in clubs and just go to stand in a circle, talking idly about politics and swaying gently from side to side to the music' idea before my mind starts wandering to the possibilities of what's happening right this second and I end up pouring bleach in my eyes, ta. OP has nothing to worry about. NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT AT ALL

ok, some history lolz
a year and a half ago he left me, his reasons being he wanted someone closer to home and was envious of his friends who had gfs close by. he also liked someone else by the sounds of it. few weeks later (i think the girl turned him down) he wanted me back.
since then, understandably i've been on edge.

ok, some history lolz
a year and a half ago he left me, his reasons being he wanted someone closer to home and was envious of his friends who had gfs close by. he also liked someone else by the sounds of it. few weeks later (i think the girl turned him down) he wanted me back.

I would be worried if there is alcohol involved...loads of alcohol

My recent-ex has gone clubbing today so I'd appreciate it if we all stuck to the 'people never do anything remotely sexual in clubs and just go to stand in a circle, talking idly about politics and swaying gently from side to side to the music' idea before my mind starts wandering to the possibilities of what's happening right this second and I end up pouring bleach in my eyes, ta. OP has nothing to worry about. NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT AT ALL

ok, some history lolz
a year and a half ago he left me, his reasons being he wanted someone closer to home and was envious of his friends who had gfs close by. he also liked someone else by the sounds of it. few weeks later (i think the girl turned him down) he wanted me back.
since then, understandably i've been on edge (along with the fact that my father left us for another woman when i was little..)
few other examples of things i wouldn't do are offering sex as a joke to a girl friend (she got so annoyed she emailed me about it), saying that a girl's breasts have grown to a friend in front of me, posing inappropriately for photos with other girls....
i understand it may be part of his jokey personality, but have some respect

he also liked someone else by the sounds of it. few weeks later (i think the girl turned him down) he wanted me back.

Just by:

What does that say? Obviously, this isn't the full story, but it sounds like he has you wrapped around his little finger. That, and he sounds like a guy that isn't ready to commit, so I am curious as to how a LDR has worked.

I guess it can be really hard being in an LDR... everyone has feelings of jealousy or paranoia every now and then. But try and think rationally. He hasn't done anything to imply that he is unhappy with the relationship, or that something may be going on with anyone else. If he was going to cheat on you, then I doubt he would say to you that he's going out with 'girls from work', he'd at least say people or guys, or maybe not even tell you he's going.

Basically, I'd remind yourself that you're still together in an LDR and that shows he likes you, and try not to worry unless you see some sign such as him lying or acting really funny all of a sudden, or something... basically, don't assume he might cheat just because the opportunities are there. You probably have many opportunities to cheat if you wanted, even though you don't go clubbing, but that's no reason for him to worry that you might, and it works the other way too.

Hope you feel better when you see him, you're probably just missing him and it's worrying you.
xxx

on the whole during the break up he swayed from saying he only saw the point in seeing me once or twice when i'm home, to suggesting that we become friends with benefits (which i promptly declined)

Come on, OP. What more confirmation do you need to realize he's not as interested in committing to you as you think? The guy does too much to suggest that his attention is on other things.