Lost my wood on my first time... SO embarrassed...

Me and my girlfriend were going to have sex yesterday, but we didn't because I lost my erection when I put the condom on. I'm so embarrassed and what little confidence I had has really been shaken...

I really want to have sex with her, and so does she with me (to the extent that she's become slightly paranoid I lost it because of her) but I just can't seem to get past the condom stage without losing my wood!

I played it slow and tried to build up to it, but I guess I was always worried about not pleasing her, as she's had 4 other sexual partners and 4 other, more experienced, frames of reference to which I will be compared to.

I love her so much and really want her to enjoy it. I've made her cum before, if it makes any difference.

Can anyone offer me any advice on the matter? Any similar experiences?

Cheers :biggrin:

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Reply 1

username47781

Don't let it bruise you

Reply 2

sil3nt_cha0s

I recommend by-passing the put-on-condom-stage.

Reply 3

ilyking

it's quite obvious that she should put your condom on :biggrin:

that would only strengthen your wood

Reply 4

edd360

Tell her to put the condom on with her mouth, or arse.

Reply 5

lukas1051

Find a hotter girlfriend?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Captain92

Are you hoping somebody will recommend by-passing the put-condom-on-stage?

Nope. I'm hoping for some people who had the same thing but came back next time and were successful :p:

I've talked about alternative contraception before, telling her I have trouble with condoms. She's aware of it, but still took my inability personally (I'm working on reassuring her lol).

I think the best way to reassure her though, would be to have sex with her... Which I can't do as I struggle with nerves!

Reply 7

Penguinsaysquack

It happens :wink:

Did for me and most of my mates iirc on their first times
Don't worry that she's experienced.. they are ex's, and ex's are ex's for a reason.
And besides, I'm sure she won't mind teaching you :wink:

And onto the losing wood issue.. you will probably have worked out that it's because you're nervous and worried.. just have confidence that it will happen and it eventually will
Relax and, importantly, enjoy yourself :yep:

And if that fails then blue pill while you build your confidence levels :wink:

Reply 8

glance

Original post by G8D

Get her to put it on with her mouth.

I tried that in caravan club once...except with her ass.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

Been happening to me too mate. Got it working last night and did it properly this morning.

Just keep relaxed an it'll happen eventually. Try not masturbating for a week, might help.

Reply 10

member520746

Happens to the best of us, little mate.

Reply 11

Wilzyy

Original post by edd360

Tell her to put the condom on with her mouth, or arse.

You have already rated a post by this user recently!
unfortunately lol. Inbetweeners ftw!

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Original post by Captain92

Is there anything in particular that makes you nervous? Is she staring at you as you put the condom on, are you insecure about your body or penis etc.? Any of the obvious things?

Not insecure about my penis, not really my body, she didn't stare or anything lol. I was fine RIGHT up until I put my hand in the draw and got the condom out - it immediately starting going and she had to get me going again, for me to lose it again when putting it on.

I think I'm most worried about being rubbish or ironically... losing my erection.

Reply 13

awais590

This is why you should do it with Prostitutes to gain the experience,
then get a gf.

Reply 14

member520746

Start watching plastic and balloon fetish videos. You lose so much sensation that wearing a condom is basically like having sex with a plastic bag while your girlfriend happens to be there, so instead of thinking "damn, condom" you will start to think "**** YEAH, CONDOM"

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Reply 15

Yawn11

You need to man up in more ways than one.

Reply 16

TheDannyManCan

Why not practice with some condoms on your own? Maybe you're not used to the process of putting it on and how it feels?
It might make you more comfortable and make things go a little more smoothly if putting it on was seen not so much as a step away from what you're doing but a transition into the main act.