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my gf said I should take her name if we get married

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Shes talking about getting married and you're worried about your name? :lolwut:

you are right.

@thread starter:

but what is the point? I think you are maybe 19 to 20. why do you think about it?????? you are so young. don´t marry the first girl who crosses your ways! and before marrying, please leave the pokemon society........ :biggrin:

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You don't have much going for you if your masculinity depends on a few letters. Let her go.

Reply 43

DOA

Original post by Potiron

Keep your own names and give girl sprogs her name and boy sprogs yours?

Although that does mean the next generation faces the same problem.

Dont think she would go for that because the point is passing on the name and if all the girls had her name they would have trouble passing it

Reply 44

Liam_G

Just make up a new name for both of you to take.

Who cares if your family name dies out, start your own family name, something fun :awesome:

Reply 45

Kalliope

Put both surnames up and we'll decide for you via poll! :h:

Reply 46

zxh800

Merge the two names. And i don't mean double-barrel it.

I mean literally, with the names Smith and Cohen you'd make it Smohen. Good eh?

Reply 47

DOA

Original post by Crazy Paving

Hopefully you will be able to sort this out when you are mature enough to get married.

I think im being very mature its not like im saying no and telling her women cant pass on their name

Reply 48

Crazy Paving

Original post by DOA

I think im being very mature its not like im saying no and telling her women cant pass on their name

Same.

Reply 49

Potiron

Original post by DOA

Dont think she would go for that because the point is passing on the name and if all the girls had her name they would have trouble passing it

I suppose. Give your first boy sprog her name, and then alternate it from there.

Reply 50

Melanie-v

That actually sounds like a good idea. If you agree on it, there shouldn't really be any problems. Tell us how it goes :smile:

Reply 51

DOA

Original post by Melanie-v

That actually sounds like a good idea. If you agree on it, there shouldn't really be any problems. Tell us how it goes :smile:

She cant say im not being fair and she wouldnt go back on it if she agreed.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 52

wangelo

Or you both dont take anyones name, and keep it the same?

Then when you have kids, have double surnames.

Reply 53

Cicerao

What is the big deal with "passing on your name"? Unless your name is Xyhsdjflajsaslsdf'sdfja, thousands of people will have your names. There's not even a guarantee it will be passed down through the generations anyway, as who said your children would choose to have children? Or maybe they'd be gay or infertile. Does it actually matter?

Reply 54

DOA

Original post by Cicerao

I just want to know i have done all i can to keep it going

Reply 55

Persephone9

Original post by zxh800

Merge the two names. And i don't mean double-barrel it.

I mean literally, with the names Smith and Cohen you'd make it Smohen. Good eh?

Someone in my years parents did this and he has a lovely name. I think it's a great idea :smile:

Reply 56

Cicerao

Original post by DOA

I just want to know i have done all i can to keep it going

But why?

Reply 57

BeanofJelly

Keep your own names. Then imply that you are both separately married and having an affair for mild amusement purposes.

If you have children give them a completely new surname. I suggest "Bastard"

Reply 58

HotCoco.

Original post by Yawn11

This is what happens when women are let loose out of bounds of the kitchen and rest of household.

They get these silly ideas in their heads.

what the **** is the world coming to :frown:

It's always you recycling that same old line.
Get off TSR and come up with some new material. :colonhash:

Reply 59

JenKat

Probably going to get negged for this post but I'm going to say it anyway. OP I don't think the earning thing is a good idea as surely the "lesser" partner would feel undervalued and dominated. Of course it's up to you whether you change your name or not. I personally think both of you should decide separately what name you want to have and shouldn't instruct each other either way.

I know it's seen as traditional for a married woman to take her husband's name (though in Scotland it was largely a 19th century invention) but I'm quite shocked by the responses in this thread. To me it seems a bit extreme to suggest dumping her purely for making this suggestion when women are often naturally expected to surrender their own name on marriage. There again I don't think husbands and wives need the same name in order to be committed to each other so I don't see why anyone, whether male or female, would feel so strongly that their partner must have their name.