my gf said I should take her name if we get married

well if you had to change your first name to Dave or Geoffrey or something you'd probably feel less feminine, same reasoning applies.

If you take your girlfriends name she is the dominant person in the relationship, which is not a nice place to be for a guy.

I was speaking about my double surname thread with her and she said she wanted her name to carry on. She said her surname in her branch of the family was going to die out because she only has sisters so she suggested maybe I should take her name. I dont want to take her name because im the only male in my family so my family name would be in as much trouble as hers is now if I dont pass it on. Im thinking of suggesting that the reason the mans name was passed on was because men were the head of the house in those days so im suggesting that who ever earns the least money at that point should take the others last name. I would also say that if we both agree to the least money system then the person on the bad end of that cant argue with it at the time.

I am right not to agree to do this because my name would be as bad as hers if I did it?
What do you think of the person who earns the least changes idea?

keep your own names, give the kid both surnames

Wait shes 1 of several girls and your 1 of 1 male, i think 1 of her other sisters can take on the responsibility of keeping their surname. Understandably if she was a only child then theirs a real dilemma.

That doesnt seem fair if your the only one that can pass your surname down, and she 2/3/ + sisters theirs more chance that they would take the name, shouldnt it be the last person in the family to get married takes the surname with them if their female.

Who knows 1 of her sisters may be a right minger and can keep her name :P

Why can't you both keep your names? I don't see the big deal here , this isn't 1845. Only a very immature and ignorant person would freak out over a surname.
I'm never going to change my name, it's a part of me. It's an outdated tradition, and it doesn't make any sense to do it anymore. Unless you hate your surname. Not to mention the process of changing the name on your passport etc, or
if you get divorced.

You don't need the same surname to be happy. Though I'm not surprised at all by some of the male responses on this thread. This forum is full of misogynistic trolls and many highly immature people. Who continue to spew out the same old material.
I'm sure dear little Jimbo will be here any second.

This shouldn't even be an issue. Neither has any right to expect the other part to change their name.

why doesn't she just keep her name?

why don't you both keep your surname

it makes sense if you both want to keep it

That's certainly unorthodox but it's been done before! If you're not okay with it then don't, just like no women should feel obliged to take the man's name.

Why don't you both keep your own names and then have a double (hyphenated) surname for your kids?

Its not our names that are problem, its that we hate double name so the children have to have one of our names to pass it on and both our names cant get passed unless one of us passes it

If your gf wants her surname to hang there...why dont you try this ..

( Gf name ) ( Her surname ) (Your surname )

You dont need to change your surname .. that is off-tradition..but you could try changing your name for a difference.

I believe the term is 'tough crap'

a man taking a woman's name on marriage is utterly ridiculous

I don't think she's out of line. I want to keep my surmane when I'm married. Basically my name dies out with me, my dad was an only child and well...there's me ^^ My surname means a lot to me, it's my heritage and it shows my ancestery, it has it's own history coming from Italy and further back Austria, I love it

Its the fact we both was to pass our names on and hate double names. If i dont pass mine on, my family names in worse trouble than hers is now because she has male cousins but i dont