black girl and white boy

I bet if he was a poor black man you would not have got with him and I'm prolly better looking than him too.

you sound like an arse hole. WHo cares about money? Stop playing the game of "Who dies with the most wins" and start loving, however I can tell from your arrogant, trucculent posts that you are not much of a "catch" anyway, and he will undoubtedly leave you..

People who divorce or break off an engagement are not seen as sluts in Islam...

hi,

so ive been together with my boyfriend now for almost two years. we both doing postgrad in the same uni but different course..and we love each other to bits. theres only some things i worry about.

1. he's a secret to my parents. im muslim. but never been brought up religious. my parents arent overly religious either, but they believe i should marry one of our kind (from same country and muslim). however my brothers and cousins love him.

2. he's from a poor background. whereas i am fortunate to be extremely well off. it never bothered me...because he always worked hard for his money and always took me out to nice places...i know he generally wants to make a lot of money. and im really glad, cos i dont want to sound spoilt, but i do want to be rich. but not rich cos i want the best designer clothes and what not..but just that i know i have the choice to. and thats what my parents want from my future man. someone rich.

3. if i tell my parents about him. he would have to be the one for life. im scared of telling, not cos i dont think he's the one..but because in muslim cultures we dont do bf's/relationships. its just straight to marriage.

4.also...i black he white..no one in my family married a white person before. so i would be the first..and im not sure how my far relatives would take to that.

what should i do?

married muslims who divorce..you rarely find a woman marrying again...its not really the done thing. you only marry again if your'e a widow maybe. but if u divorce then u stick with your decision. besides most muslim men dont go for divorcees.

Long story short. I started to look at religion as a whole, rather than at Islam exclusively. I found that the reason why I rejected all other religions, could also be applied to Islam. And it all started to fizzle out from there.

does it seem too difficult for you to follow?

so because we live in the 21st century, we shouldnt listen to what our parents say?

I would tell you to grow a backbone(spine) and marry this guy as you probably wont get anyone better. most men in general will be put off by the whole muslim thing and of course your blatent insecuirty and inability to deside something quite simple.

but then again if ur under the age of 20 id watch out uve got maturing to do and he may too.

Ditto.

i am somali and see myself as black
i have no idea where this rubbish came from

Rich Somalis? Nahhh

I never have, and never could see them as black. I had this argument with some sudanese girls (btw sudanese girls are hot!), eventually they gave ip and agreed they weren't too.

I just cant' see it like that, you guys aren't black.



LOL - it felt so wrong to laugh at this.

what? where's your reasoning in this??? and btw i did not get years of racism just for some randomer to say "you ain't black"
so, just out of interest what would YOU class us as???

So you're a somali then?

I dunno Arab or just Somali - there's enough of you to be a seperate race all together really.

And every race can receive racism, even white people.

I've said this on TSR a few times before, nothing personal, I just don't see it, even mix race people seem more black to me
It's not just me, other black people agree, i'm sure there's some that might disagree too.

he's from a poor background. whereas i am fortunate to be extremely well off. it never bothered me...because he always worked hard for his money and always took me out to nice places...i know he generally wants to make a lot of money. and im really glad, cos i dont want to sound spoilt, but i do want to be rich. but not rich cos i want the best designer clothes and what not..but just that i know i have the choice to. and thats what my parents want from my future man. someone rich.

I dunno Arab or just Somali - there's enough of you to be a seperate race all together really.

And every race can receive racism, even white people.

I've said this on TSR a few times before, nothing personal, I just don't see it, even mix race people seem more black to me

It's not just me, other black people agree, i'm sure there's some that might disagree too.