I'm not too sure whats wrong with me

How many low confidence threads is it possible to have in one day. Cmon people.

If it helps, I'm feeling the same.

My boyfriend did something which has meant I now have low self-esteem and no motivation to do anything.
I feel like I have to change myself now to be more outgoing and confident and fun and attractive, and it's getting quite hard :/

Haha sorry - its not about the low confidence that I want to discuss really. It's just that I can talk to people better online than in person? Its like I'm two different people? Just wondering if thats weird or not

I know exactly what you mean. But I know that if I talk to someone online I'm different or if I meet someone new than someone I already know? I wasn't exactly attractive or popular or anything (in fact I was a fat nerd :L) until two years ago or so when I started exercising blahblah and made new mates and stuff. I don't feel like I've changed but I just can't connect to people anymore?

I've been told I act older than I am and that might be what it is :/

If you wanna talk about it then message me or something

Right well I'm going to keep this simple.
I'm pretty lonely right now. I've got a gf and she's lovely and everything but what she's done in the past has pretty much ****ed me up. I'm seriously under confident and just lack so much motivation. I've gone from being an out-going person to someone who just stays in :/ And no she's not the only reason why this has happened (over the past few years) but basically:

The people I meet online I can talk to fine. They're usually girls cause well on places like omegle and stuff the guys don't want to talk. I'm usually told I'm funny and a nice guy. But I find it really hard to talk to people in college and spark up an interesting conversation who I meet in person. But online I'm totally different.

Weird?

Hi Jtnz,

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, so for a start, dont' worry.

The difference between who you feel you can be when behind a computer screen is often very different to how you feel 'in the real world'.

So let's start with that.

From my own experience, I remember sitting inside spending actually too much time online, staying up stupidly late on forums, etc. I found that the more I did that, the more unsociable I became in real life. So although it may seem hard, I really would recommend just taking some time away from the computer, leave off forums and Facebook etc for a few days, and try to re-connect with the real people in your life. It may take a while for you to regain some of your confidence, but I doubt you've lost it altogether! You just need to shake things up a bit.

Are there any societies or group events you could join where you could meet new people?
Or any friends that you haven't spoken to in a while? Give them a ring!

Also, I know it may sound like the last thing that you wanna do, but doing some exercise and getting some fresh air will honestly make you feel better too. And hey, you might even meet some new people through it too!


Ok, now about your girlfriend....
Whatever she has done in the past that's messed you up - Have you thought about talking about it with her again? Does it still really bother you? Or is it just something that always comes to the front of your mind when you're feeling down anyway.

I think you need to think about how much it bothers you - So much that you think what who had has been tainted by it so much that maybe it's time to call it a day? Or is it something that you feel you guys can move on from?


Anyways, chin up, try to think about what you've got going on and the great aspects of your personality, and good luck

I haven't spoken to anyone at all about it, I'd just feel humiliated!
The sort of people I'm surrounded by at college doesn't help, most are all very loud and up themselves (private girls school.... bleugh.) They all just care about themselves :/ I do have close friends, just none I'd feel comfortable opening up those sorts of feelings to...

I'm just bored of it!