Hey guys,
I've posted here a couple of times before, but basically I've been in an LDR with my boyfriend for nearly two years now, and he just got a new job, starting Monday, which is great for him, but I am PETRIFIED. I can't tell him how I'm feeling because I think he'd go mad, and because this job's such a good opportunity for him I don't want to say I'm feeling negative about it anyway as I want to be supportive but also don't want to put him off as I know he's also a little nervous, but is mostly excited.
The first thing is, we have now lost our weekends together. I am at university and so travelling in the week is out of the question for me, and because of the nature of the job, having weekends off are out of the question for him. He hasn't been given his exact days yet, only that he will be working 5 days a week and 42 hours, but he has requested to have two days together off in the week, and he said they sounded positive about that idea, and he thinks that's great. But I'm not so confident at all. It will mean that he is going to have to travel to me all of the time, as there will be no point in me going to him at the weekends when he will be working 8/9 hours both days and then has band practice on a sunday evening. At least on those weekdays I am only likely to have 2 lectures a day and will only need to nip out for a short amount of time. He already doesn't like the travelling much, and I know he will get fed up of it and we will see each other less, and he'll get bored of the situation and realise it's not worth the effort.
Which brings me to the other thing: he is also going to be a lot of women, who are all going to know a lot about fashion because of the nature of the job and therefore be better suited to him on that level, and while I might be wrong about this, because the company is fairly prestigious, I think they are likely to pick people who are good looking, who will model the clothes well - my boyfriend certainly falls into this category, having the typical male fashion model physique and a typically attractive face. My boyfriend wasn't particularly attracted to me when we first met, and I am not a very good looking person at all, highlighted by the fact that he is my first and only boyfriend, and I feel like there is just no hope for us when it's going to become so inconvenient and he is surrounded by attractive women every day who are going to be more on his wave length and bound to be interested in him.
I don't know if this sounds pathetic, but I hope there's at least someone out there who understands that to me it doesn't feel pathetic at all, and I am very stressed and upset about it. I have been poorly for over a week now, and I have my first exam in 5 days and I am nowhere near ready for it, that should be the priority of my thinking but I can't concentrate at all. I struggle with anxiety, and I just keep bursting into tears, I think as a combination of the pressures of my exams and the situation with my boyfriend. I feel like I'm just waiting for it to fall apart, and part of me wonders whether I should just end it now to save the hurt later, but I love him more than anything and the idea of us ending is what's upsetting me in the first place. I guess I'm just looking for some support or advice if anyone has any...
Thanks so much if you've read this