Would you *ever* give up your ideal dreams/future/career for your perfect partner?

Hmm. So, its either give up biking or she dies / I see her with another man?

Well, if she was to die, I'd give up biking. However much it means to me, it isn't worth someone's life. So I'd give it up, and aim to be good in something else. Even though I'd still not be with her, it wouldn't be worth anyone's life, really. (Well, aside from obvious exceptions, such as someone who has committed a major-crime, etc)

To see her with another man. Now that's tough. On one hand, I doubt I'd be around enough with her during a career anyway; so it'd be a more appropriate option on my behalf to say "Look, its best you're with someone else. I can't be around as much as you'd like me too be."
Alternatively, I don't know whether I'd be able to watch someone as perfect walk away with another guy. However, I'd be worried of it rolling back to the first point in this paragraph; does she really deserve to be alone all the time?

So yeah:

If it were she was going to die, I'd immediately give it up. I live for the sport, but it isn't worth someone's life.
And if I were to see her with another man, I'd probably still go for biking, on the basis that she'd deserve a man around all the time. Or most of the time, at least.

Most people are not doing their ideal job.

Yes because with my perfect partner comes the ideal future

People are willing to work a job they dislike for their family.

My perfect partner would support my ideal future/career, so clearly they're not perfect

Also, I'm probably gonna be a crazy cat lady anyway, I accepted this years ago

Thanks.

These were my thoughts prior to creating this thread:

*The belief that having a partner/children is a "necessity"
*Wanting to achieve something is apparently selfish
*Everyone should conform to the marriage/kids game
*If you don't experience "love", you're not human
*It's robotic to aim for something else other than relationships
*Relationships equal happiness
*Career-driven individuals are ultimately unhappy
*You're not "human" if you don't want a partner/kids

Really?

So much as changed socially, i.e. with regards to ethnic minorities, the female gender, homosexuals etc - but it still seems to be a social stigma to be career-driven as opposed to family-driven. Even to the extent of being called a (and I have heard this) "weird, selfish bitch".

It's interesting (although sad) for some people to INSIST for people on having kids and getting married - for the sake of it? Because everyone is doing it? Why?

We all have our own lives. Why can't we live how we want it to want we want to do (providing it's beneficial to the world), even if that means not having a partner/kids?

In what "life book" does it say you HAVE to have a family? Does God deny you entry to heaven for not having a family or something? Are you inferior for having a different opinion?

But surely if she did not allow me anything which made me happy she would be the worst possible partner and not a dream partner? Looks are such minor things, it is whether they are like me personality wise, or at least similar enough in nature to make us compatible. If I was not allowed any hobbies I enjoy then what life would I have? I understand sacrificing a career, financial status and such, but taking away everything you enjoy is taking away what makes you who you are....only a monster of a partner would do that..

But that is not your question, you asked about partner and "perfect" future(no such thing exists lol)........kinda of a silly question considering you're only like 16.......wait a couple of more years until you've matured a little!

If I had to choose between the two, I would choose my partner. A stable and loving family life is more important to me than any career- plus I guess I could do volunteering and language classes and fun stuff like that.

Wow no need to get nasty. I'm fairly sure my life won't end up that way.

It's my view, I would pick perfect relationship over perfect career. You asked the question, sorry for answering

So you can get love from a perfect career?
What's the appeal with a "family"?
You can't get valuable memories from a perfect career?
Who's to say a perfect won't completely satisfy you?

*Perfect partner
*Perfect future

It's quite sickening to think that many people imply their future career is about making money.

Don't you have bigger goals than having 9-5? Solving poverty? Curing cancer?

Just shows how unambitious people are. No wonder people seek refuge to the world of "relationships" and "love" as they are too scared to use this one opportunity for life, go for it and achieve something great.

No, apparently it's better to be "safe and typical".

I whole-heartedly agree with this. People feel to need to conform to the social norms i.e they're a slave to society. Just doing what you want to do in life without caring about how other perceive you is admirable.

TBH I personally don't really really want kids, (well until I'm content in life and I've achieved my aims); and I don't particularly want to be bound to a partner either, I told my mother this and she was horrified. I want to live my dreams and that within itself will bring me blissful happiness.

Brilliant thread ISA

Arguable, is it worth it?

Would you do the WORST job you can think of for your perfect girl/guy?

It says somewhere in this thread that you can tell if someone's passionate about their dream/ subject if they're willing to give up their perfect partner for it.

Well that's ********. I'd give up my career for my boyfriend, doesn't mean I'm not passionate about what I want to do it means that in this hypothetical situation I couldn't live a happy life without him.

Thankfully in real life we can have both